بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

The importance of this topic cannot be over emphasized. Good behavior, i.e what the believers should do and what they should avoid is the gist of Allah’s guidance to mankind. Need to ponder over Allah’s instructions of applying good behaviors in our lives.

Salat/Prayers is an excellent means of reciting and repeating Allah’s ayahs. To make salat more beneficial it would serve one better if one tries to understand the ayahs containing orders of Allah,  recite them in salat and implement them in one’s life style.

Allah has instilled in human ‘nafs’ the recognition of evil and goodness inherently and he has shown them both paths (وَهَدَيْنَاهُ النَّجْدَيْنِ, 90:10) People know the difference between a bad and good act within themselves. However, time, situation and habits, make them forget or justify their bad acts. So a constant reminder from Allah’s ayahs helps to keep people on the straight path.

91:7-10 وَنَفْسٍ وَمَا سَوَّاهَا فَأَلْهَمَهَا فُجُورَهَا وَتَقْوَاهَا قَدْ أَفْلَحَ مَن زَكَّاهَا وَقَدْ خَابَ مَن دَسَّاهَا

By the Nafs/pshyce, and who proportioned it, thus He instilled in it, its evil and its goodness. Verily, the one who purified it (the Nafs), succeeded, and the one who buried/corrupted it (nafs), failed.

For those who believe and are doing corrections in their actions, there is no blame for them for what they ate or did in the past. They will be doing corrections again and again and guarding them constantly from evil so that their psyche becomes that of a good person who automatically does good thing by default.

5:97 لَيْسَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ جُنَاحٌ فِيمَا طَعِمُوا إِذَا مَا اتَّقَوا وَّآمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ ثُمَّ اتَّقَوا وَّآمَنُوا ثُمَّ اتَّقَوا وَّأَحْسَنُوا ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

For those who believed and did correction in their actions,  there is no blame for what they ate (in the past), when they guard themselves from evil, and believe, and do deeds of righteousness,-  after that again, guard themselves from evil and believe,-  again after that, guard themselves from evil and do good. For Allah loves those who do good.

And take heed that you will be tried in something which would be temptation and within easy reach of you and your means, in order to test your belief that who actually fears Allah by not transgressing even with the presence of temptation and being in control of it.

5:98 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَيَبْلُوَنَّكُمُ اللَّهُ بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الصَّيْدِ تَنَالُهُ أَيْدِيكُمْ وَرِمَاحُكُمْ لِيَعْلَمَ اللَّهُ مَن يَخَافُهُ بِالْغَيْبِ ۚ فَمَنِ اعْتَدَىٰ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ فَلَهُ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ

O you people who believe! Allah will definitely test with game within reach of your hands and your spears/means, so that He may know who fears Him unseen. Thus any, who transgresses afterwards, will have a grievous penalty.

Serve Allah alone i.e don’t take orders and seek good pleasure of any one other than Allah in divine matters , do good and be generous to parents, relatives, orphans, poor, neighbors, companions, wayfarers and those subservient to you.

4:36   وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا

Serve Allah, and do not join any thing in partnership with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, poor, neighbors who are relatives, neighbors who are strangers, the companion by your side, the son of the way, and what you possess rightfully, for Allah does not love the arrogant, the vainglorious;-

Don’t be arrogant and boastful in your attitude with anyone. Allah does not like boastful arrogant people.

2:208   يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا ادْخُلُوا فِي السِّلْمِ كَافَّةً وَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا خُطُوَاتِ الشَّيْطَانِ ۚ إِنَّهُ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ مُّبِينٌ

O’ People who believe, enter into the peace completely; and follow not the footsteps of Satan for he is an clear enemy to you.

Fully immerse in peace and security. Against any situation that you encounter in life, your judgment should be the one seeking peace and security (3:19).  Satan tries to create enmity and hatred among our selves and provide means of temptation. This eternal enemy  is to be shunned all times.

7:199   خُذِ الْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ الْجَاهِلِينَ

Hold to pardon / excuse / overlook and order with what is recognizably (right) and turn away from the ignorant ones.

Indulge in a life of humility and don’t be a transgressor, crossing limits.

7:55-56 ادْعُوا رَبَّكُمْ تَضَرُّعًا وَخُفْيَةً ۚ إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُعْتَدِينَ وَلَا تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ بَعْدَ إِصْلَاحِهَا وَادْعُوهُ خَوْفًا وَطَمَعًا ۚ إِنَّ رَحْمَتَ اللَّهِ قَرِيبٌ مِّنَ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

Call on your Lord with humility and privately, for Allah does not like those who trespass beyond bounds. Do no make violence on the earth, after it’s reformation, and call on Him with fear and longing for the Grace of Allah is near to those who do good.

Be forgiving to people and don’t be harsh on them. Don’t engage with people who don’t have knowledge and wisdom.

41:34   وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ۚ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ

Nor can goodness and evil be equal. Repel (evil) with what is better, then with whom was hatred between you and him, will become as if he were you friend and intimate!

Respond to aggression with goodness, the evil doer on realization of his mistake will feel guilty. Replying evil with greater evil would definitely result in deterioration of situation.

25:63  وَعِبَادُ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ هَوْنًا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلَامًا

And the servants of (Allah) most Gracious are those who walk on the earth in humility, and when the ignorant ones address them, they say,”Salam/Peace!”

The servants of Al-Rehman have humility and restraint in their behavior.

15:88   لَا تَمُدَّنَّ عَيْنَيْكَ إِلَىٰ مَا مَتَّعْنَا بِهِ أَزْوَاجًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا تَحْزَنْ عَلَيْهِمْ وَاخْفِضْ جَنَاحَكَ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ

Do not look (wistfully) at what We have bestowed on certain classes of them, nor grieve over them, but bow your wings (in gentleness) to the believers.

Don’t eye worldly possessions and riches with wistfulness.

3:134  الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

Those who spend  in prosperity and in adversity; who are restrainers of anger/rage, and are forgiving to people;- for Allah loves those who do good;-

Restraint of one’s anger and rage is very important. Allah loves those who forgive people and are good to them and they spend in Allah’s way in prosperity and even when they are in difficult situation.

3:135 وَالَّذِينَ إِذَا فَعَلُوا فَاحِشَةً أَوْ ظَلَمُوا أَنفُسَهُمْ ذَكَرُوا اللَّهَ فَاسْتَغْفَرُوا لِذُنُوبِهِمْ وَمَن يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَلَمْ يُصِرُّوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلُوا وَهُمْ يَعْلَمُونَ

And those who, having done a ‘Fahisha’ act, or wronged their ‘nafs’, earnestly remember Allah and ask for forgiveness for their sins,- and who can forgive sins except Allah?- and they don’t persist over their (wrong) doings knowingly.

If they happen to do an act of indecency they remember Allah to forgive them and they don’t try to vainly justify to keep doing their bad act while they know in their hearts that their justification is weak.

2:268 الشَّيْطَانُ يَعِدُكُمُ الْفَقْرَ وَيَأْمُرُكُم بِالْفَحْشَاءِ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَعِدُكُم مَّغْفِرَةً مِّنْهُ وَفَضْلًا ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ

Satan promises you of poverty and orders you with Fahisha/shameful acts. Allah promises you His forgiveness and Grace, and Allah is  all-embracing, all-knowing

Whenever you fear loss of income and poverty, be cautious as it could be Satan doing his action on you, while Allah promises his benevolence on the believers.

25:72  وَالَّذِينَ لَا يَشْهَدُونَ الزُّورَ وَإِذَا مَرُّوا بِاللَّغْوِ مَرُّوا كِرَامًا

Those who witness no falsehood, and, if they pass by vain and frivolous talk, they pass by it with dignity;

Pass by undesirable, vain or obscene items with dignity without making undue fuss.

4:112  وَمَن يَكْسِبْ خَطِيئَةً أَوْ إِثْمًا ثُمَّ يَرْمِ بِهِ بَرِيئًا فَقَدِ احْتَمَلَ بُهْتَانًا وَإِثْمًا مُّبِينًا

But if any one does a fault or a sin and then blames it on to someone innocent, He carries (on himself) a falsehood and a clear sin.

A big thing in the eyes of the Lord, to put the blame of your’s wrong doing on some one else. This will not be taken lightly by Allah, so have the courage to accept the responsibility of your actions.

61:3  كَبُرَ مَقْتًا عِندَ اللَّهِ أَن تَقُولُوا مَا لَا تَفْعَلُونَ

Grievously odious is it in the sight of Allah is that you say something on which you yourself don’t act upon.

16:90  إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَيَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنكَرِ وَالْبَغْيِ ۚ يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

Allah commands justice and doing of goodness, and generosity to kith and kin, and He forbids all shameful deeds, and injustice and rebellion. He instructs you, that ye may receive admonition.

Allah is appreciative of your doing of good deeds whether openly or not so, and forgiving of evil things.

4:149 إِن تُبْدُوا خَيْرًا أَوْ تُخْفُوهُ أَوْ تَعْفُوا عَن سُوءٍ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَفُوًّا قَدِيرًا

Whether you show a good deed or conceal it or pardon an evil, verily Allah is forgiving and appreciative.

31: 18  وَلَا تُصَعِّرْ خَدَّكَ لِلنَّاسِ وَلَا تَمْشِ فِي الْأَرْضِ مَرَحًا ۖ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ

“And do not swell your cheeks (with pride) for people, and do not walk on earth with pageant; for Allah does not love any arrogant boaster.”

10:99   وَلَوْ شَاءَ رَبُّكَ لَآمَنَ مَن فِي الْأَرْضِ كُلُّهُمْ جَمِيعًا ۚ أَفَأَنتَ تُكْرِهُ النَّاسَ حَتَّىٰ يَكُونُوا مُؤْمِنِينَ

If it had been your Lord’s will, they would all have believed,- all people who are on earth! Will you then compel mankind, (against their will), until they become believers!

Faith is not to be forced on any one. People can only be invited towards the path of Allah with the best way possible and with reason and wisdom (16:125)

Importance of just Witness:

6:152  وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا مَالَ الْيَتِيمِ إِلَّا بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ حَتَّىٰ يَبْلُغَ أَشُدَّهُ ۖ وَأَوْفُوا الْكَيْلَ وَالْمِيزَانَ بِالْقِسْطِ ۖ لَا نُكَلِّفُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۖ وَإِذَا قُلْتُمْ فَاعْدِلُوا وَلَوْ كَانَ ذَا قُرْبَىٰ ۖ وَبِعَهْدِ اللَّهِ أَوْفُوا ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ وَصَّاكُم بِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

And do not come near the orphan’s money/property, except with a noble way, until he attains the age of full strength; And complete measurement and balance with justice;- We don’t burden any one, but according to its capacity;- and when you speak, speak justly, even if a near relative is concerned; and fulfil the covenant of Allah. thus He enjoins you, so that you may remember.

The important points to consider in above ayat are;

1) to be very careful with the portion of orphans and return their rightful portion to them when they attain maturity,

2) Do all transactions with justice,

3)  No siding or bending towards any side when giving witness, even when one side belong to your kith and kin and faith. The witness should always be truly just. 

Bribery:

2:188   وَلَا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَكُم بَيْنَكُم بِالْبَاطِلِ وَتُدْلُوا بِهَا إِلَى الْحُكَّامِ لِتَأْكُلُوا فَرِيقًا مِّنْ أَمْوَالِ النَّاسِ بِالْإِثْمِ وَأَنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ

And do not consume each other’s wealth with falsehood, nor offer it to people in authority with intent of usurping unlawfully and knowingly a part of the wealth of others.

Don’t bribe officials and don’t eat other people wealth with fraud or deception.

Ridicule:

49:11  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِّن نِّسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ ۖ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ ۚ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ

O ye who believe! Let not some people among you laugh at others. It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former). Nor let some women laugh at others. It may be that the (latter are better than the (former). Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames. Reviling/bad names after (attaining) faith is really bad. And those who do not desist are (indeed) the Zalimun/wrongdoers.

Very important instruction, do not ridicule, be sarcastic and invent bad nicknames for other people. Swearing and reviling are strictly prohibited after attainment of faith. In fact its a good way to recognize believers from non believers. Believers would never bad mouth or use bad language after attaining faith from ayahs of Allah. Swearing and badmouthing is a sure shot sign that faith has not entered a person’s heart.

Dishonesty in business:

Cheaters, fraudsters and  dishonest people who defraud people in their dealings, will face grave penalty when they will face their Lord on the day of judgment.

83:1-6  وَيْلٌ لِّلْمُطَفِّفِينَ  الَّذِينَ إِذَا اكْتَالُوا عَلَى النَّاسِ يَسْتَوْفُونَ  وَإِذَا كَالُوهُمْ أَو وَّزَنُوهُمْ يُخْسِرُونَ  أَلَا يَظُنُّ أُولَٰئِكَ أَنَّهُم مَّبْعُوثُونَ  لِيَوْمٍ عَظِيمٍ  يَوْمَ يَقُومُ النَّاسُ لِرَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ

Woe to the cheaters- When they receive measure from other people they receive in full, When they are the ones giving measure or weight, they give less than due. Do they not consider that they will be resurrected for a great day? A Day when (all) mankind will stand before the Lord of the Worlds?

In all your dealings and transactions in business you are required to conduct with utmost honesty and integrity, this should give you the best outcome.

17:35 وَأَوْفُوا الْكَيْلَ إِذَا كِلْتُمْ وَزِنُوا بِالْقِسْطَاسِ الْمُسْتَقِيمِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ خَيْرٌ وَأَحْسَنُ تَأْوِيلًا

Give full measure when you are measuring, and weigh on a balanced scale. This is better, and excellent is its’ consequence.

Don’t defraud people and eat their money unjustly. All transactions among people should be with mutual consent and with fairness. No killing allowed, anyone who does it with enmity and cruelty will be put in fire.

4:29-30  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَكُم بَيْنَكُم بِالْبَاطِلِ إِلَّا أَن تَكُونَ تِجَارَةً عَن تَرَاضٍ مِّنكُمْ ۚ وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُمْ رَحِيمًا  وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ عُدْوَانًا وَظُلْمًا فَسَوْفَ نُصْلِيهِ نَارًا ۚ وَكَانَ ذَٰلِكَ عَلَى اللَّهِ يَسِيرًا

O you people who believe! You do not eat your wealth among yourselves with falsehood except it is for trading amongst you with mutual consent. And donot kill yourselves/souls. Verily Allah has been to you merciful! If any does that in enmity and injustice,- We shall cast them into the fire and that is easy for Allah.

Do not slander or bike-bite people.  Miser people are usually fond of counting their money. Gathering money and counting one’s wealth all the time makes the love of money so much instilled in one’s heart that it becomes difficult for them to spend its due portion in just causes.

104:1-2  وَيْلٌ لِّكُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ لُّمَزَةٍ الَّذِي جَمَعَ مَالًا وَعَدَّدَهُ

Woe to every  slanderer and-backbiter/fault finder, Who piles up wealth and counts it.

Balanced disposition:

Believers should have a poised demeanor and always talk gently with people without raising their voices.

31:19  وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ

“And be moderate in your walk, and lower your voice; for the more unpleasant of sounds is the braying of the ass.”

Allah does not like that people become boastful of what bounties Allah has given them.

Nor they should be overly grieved over losses they incur, as these are all temporal goods and will always be subject to vicissitudes of worldly life.

57:23  لِّكَيْلَا تَأْسَوْا عَلَىٰ مَا فَاتَكُمْ وَلَا تَفْرَحُوا بِمَا آتَاكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ

So that you may not grieve for what has escaped you, nor be exultant at what He has given you; and God does not love any arrogant boaster

The trusts of the people should be returned to the rightful owners on demand and who ever orders among people should order equitably with justice.

4:58  إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُكُمْ أَن تُؤَدُّوا الْأَمَانَاتِ إِلَىٰ أَهْلِهَا وَإِذَا حَكَمْتُم بَيْنَ النَّاسِ أَن تَحْكُمُوا بِالْعَدْلِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ نِعِمَّا يَعِظُكُم بِهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ سَمِيعًا بَصِيرًا

Verily, Allah enjoins that you render to the owners what is held in trust with you, and that when you judge among the people do so equitably. Noble are the advices of Allah to you, and Allah hears sees (all).

When you give witness, be truthful to justice even if the witness is against your self or your parents or near and dear ones.

4:135  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ بِالْقِسْطِ شُهَدَاءَ لِلَّهِ وَلَوْ عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَوِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ ۚ إِن يَكُنْ غَنِيًّا أَوْ فَقِيرًا فَاللَّهُ أَوْلَىٰ بِهِمَا ۖ فَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا الْهَوَىٰ أَن تَعْدِلُوا ۚ وَإِن تَلْوُوا أَوْ تُعْرِضُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا

O you people who believe! Be the ones who stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses for Allah, even if this (witness) is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and if they (concerned parties) are rich or poor Allah is more (a benefactor for them than you).Thus do not follow the desire (of your hearts), so that you (try to) do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.

Don’t be a miser your self nor advise others to be miserly and hide what Allah has granted you with His bounties.

4:37  الَّذِينَ يَبْخَلُونَ وَيَأْمُرُونَ النَّاسَ بِالْبُخْلِ وَيَكْتُمُونَ مَا آتَاهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَأَعْتَدْنَا لِلْكَافِرِينَ عَذَابًا مُّهِينًا

Those who are miserly and order people with miserliness, and hide what Allah has bestowed on them from His grace; and We have prepared, for the rejectors, a shameful punishment.

Making guess work and conjectures about people and spying on them is bad and can be a sin in some cases. In cases of married people, suspicion on their spouses and spying on them, falls into this category. Same is the case of back biting and talking badly about people this is the like of eating the flesh of one’s own brother, such is its abhorrence in the eyes of Allah.

49:12  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ

O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is a sin, and do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does any one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? But you abhor it; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), Merciful.

When you invite towards the way of the Lord, please do so in the most beautiful and gracious manner with good reasoning and advice. For reasoning with people it is often useful to look from their point of view in order to help them relate and understand.

16:125  ادْعُ إِلَىٰ سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ ۖ وَجَادِلْهُم بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ ۚ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَن ضَلَّ عَن سَبِيلِهِ ۖ وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْمُهْتَدِينَ

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful sermon and reason with them in the best (possible) manner,  for your Lord surely knows best who strays from His path and He knows best who receives guidance.

Treatment of children of unknown fathers:

33:4-5  مَّا جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لِرَجُلٍ مِّن قَلْبَيْنِ فِي جَوْفِهِ ۚ وَمَا جَعَلَ أَزْوَاجَكُمُ اللَّائِي تُظَاهِرُونَ مِنْهُنَّ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ ۚ وَمَا جَعَلَ أَدْعِيَاءَكُمْ أَبْنَاءَكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ قَوْلُكُم بِأَفْوَاهِكُمْ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَقُولُ الْحَقَّ وَهُوَ يَهْدِي السَّبِيلَ  ادْعُوهُمْ لِآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِندَ اللَّهِ ۚ فَإِن لَّمْ تَعْلَمُوا آبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ ۚ وَلَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ جُنَاحٌ فِيمَا أَخْطَأْتُم بِهِ وَلَٰكِن مَّا تَعَمَّدَتْ قُلُوبُكُمْ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا

Allah has not made for any man two hearts in his breast, nor has He made your wives/pairs whom ye declare (by Zihar) your mothers. Nor has He made your called ones your sons. Such is (only) your words by your mouths, but Allah tells the Truth, and He shows the (right) way.  Call them by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just in the sight of Allah. But if you don’t know not their fathers then they are your brothers in Din/judgment, and your allies. But there is no blame on you if ye make a (un-intentional) slip therein, (what counts is) the intention of your hearts and Allah is oft-Returning, most Merciful.

Those people whose fathers are not known, the society often treats them with disdain and hatred and abuses them with bad words such as ‘illegitimate children’ etc. The above two ayahs make it clear that they should be treated as your brothers in Din/Judgment and very much like part of the society.

False and unverified statements should be avoided in all matters of life. In religious matters as well personality worship is common in many groups of sects and religions. There are all sorts of stories devised in order to elevate status of religious personalities within each group:

22:30 وَاجْتَنِبُوا قَوْلَ الزُّورِ….

Avoid making false statements.

Allah does not like boastful people exulting in their boastfulness.

28:36 إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْفَرِحِينَ…….

Allah does not like those who exult (in boastfulness).

Don’t be a squanderer of money i.e wasting it on unnecessary expenses. Give the rightful due share to poors and relatives from your wealth, the due share of others from your wealth is as per ayat 8:41.

17:26-27 وَآتِ ذَا الْقُرْبَىٰ حَقَّهُ وَالْمِسْكِينَ وَابْنَ السَّبِيلِ وَلَا تُبَذِّرْ تَبْذِيرًا إِنَّ الْمُبَذِّرِينَ كَانُوا إِخْوَانَ الشَّيَاطِينِ ۖ وَكَانَ الشَّيْطَانُ لِرَبِّهِ كَفُورًا

And give to the relatives their due rights, and to the poor and to the wayfarer. And do not squander (your wealth) in a wasteful manner. Squanderers are the brothers of the satans, and the Satan is to his Lord, a rejecter.

When you have sworn on something or make a solemn commitment, then you have to fulfil it, otherwise pay heavy expiation.

5:89 لَا يُؤَاخِذُكُمُ اللَّهُ بِاللَّغْوِ فِي أَيْمَانِكُمْ وَلَٰكِن يُؤَاخِذُكُم بِمَا عَقَّدتُّمُ الْأَيْمَانَ ۖ فَكَفَّارَتُهُ إِطْعَامُ عَشَرَةِ مَسَاكِينَ مِنْ أَوْسَطِ مَا تُطْعِمُونَ أَهْلِيكُمْ أَوْ كِسْوَتُهُمْ أَوْ تَحْرِيرُ رَقَبَةٍ ۖ فَمَن لَّمْ يَجِدْ فَصِيَامُ ثَلَاثَةِ أَيَّامٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ كَفَّارَةُ أَيْمَانِكُمْ إِذَا حَلَفْتُمْ ۚ وَاحْفَظُوا أَيْمَانَكُمْ ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ

Allah does not call you to account with futile talk in your oaths, but He calls you to account with what you deliberate in your oaths/right. Thus it’s expiation is to feed ten indigent persons, the average of the food you feed your families; or clothe them; or free a neck. If any does not find such then fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths/right you have sworn. Guard your oaths/right. This way Allah make clear to you His Ayats/signs, that you may be grateful.

The treaties to be honored till the end of their terms unless the other party violates the terms therein.

9:4 إِلَّا الَّذِينَ عَاهَدتُّم مِّنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ ثُمَّ لَمْ يَنقُصُوكُمْ شَيْئًا وَلَمْ يُظَاهِرُوا عَلَيْكُمْ أَحَدًا فَأَتِمُّوا إِلَيْهِمْ عَهْدَهُمْ إِلَىٰ مُدَّتِهِمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَّقِينَ

Except for those polytheists with whom ye have entered into covenant and who have not subsequently failed you in aught, nor aided any one against you. So fulfil your covenant with them to the end of their term. For Allah loveth the righteous.

Welcome guests with graciousness and generosity. The practice of prophet Ibrahim (a.s) tells us that guests are to be treated graciously and with generosity.:

51:24-26 هَلْ أَتَاكَ حَدِيثُ ضَيْفِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الْمُكْرَمِينَ إِذْ دَخَلُوا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالُوا سَلَامًا ۖ قَالَ سَلَامٌ قَوْمٌ مُّنكَرُونَ فَرَاغَ إِلَىٰ أَهْلِهِ فَجَاءَ بِعِجْلٍ سَمِينٍ

Has the story reached you, of the honoured guests of Ibrahim? When, they entered his presence, and said. “Peace!” He said, “Peace!”, unusual people.” Then he turned quickly to his household, brought out a fat calf.

The wives of the prophets are mothers of the believers in Al-Quran as long as Quran instructions are valid they are not to be judged based on any other book of history. This will be tantamount to putting preference on history over Allah’s orders.

33:6 النَّبِيُّ أَوْلَىٰ بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ مِنْ أَنفُسِهِمْ ۖ وَأَزْوَاجُهُ أُمَّهَاتُهُمْ…

The Prophet is closer to the Believers than their own selves, and his wives are their mothers.

The married and engaged women are not to be incriminated and gossiped upon. Those who do it without manifest proof and four witnesses their punishment in the eyes of the Lord is equivalent to 80 lashes and they will be considered unreliable in future as a witness.

24:4 وَالَّذِينَ يَرْمُونَ الْمُحْصَنَاتِ ثُمَّ لَمْ يَأْتُوا بِأَرْبَعَةِ شُهَدَاءَ فَاجْلِدُوهُمْ ثَمَانِينَ جَلْدَةً وَلَا تَقْبَلُوا لَهُمْ شَهَادَةً أَبَدًا ۚ وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْفَاسِقُونَ

And those who put a charge (of infidelity) on married women then they do not come with four witnesses, so flog them with eighty stripes and do not ever accept their witness and they are those who are fasiq/ immoral / dissolute.

The believers when they hear slanderous accusation about someone character for which they do not have first hand knowledge, instead of accepting it on hearsay, should consider it false propaganda and tell people not to spread it.

24:12 لَّوْلَا إِذْ سَمِعْتُمُوهُ ظَنَّ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بِأَنفُسِهِمْ خَيْرًا وَقَالُوا هَٰذَا إِفْكٌ مُّبِينٌ

Why did not the believers – men and women – when ye heard of the affair,- put the best construction on it in their own minds and say, “This (charge) is an obvious lie” ?

Don’t spread gossip especially about the character of women. It may be vain talk to some people, but is gravely serious matter for Allah.

24:15 إِذْ تَلَقَّوْنَهُ بِأَلْسِنَتِكُمْ وَتَقُولُونَ بِأَفْوَاهِكُم مَّا لَيْسَ لَكُم بِهِ عِلْمٌ وَتَحْسَبُونَهُ هَيِّنًا وَهُوَ عِندَ اللَّهِ عَظِيمٌ

When you put it on your tongues, and said out of your mouths things of which ye had no knowledge; and ye thought it to be a light matter, while it was most serious in the sight of Allah.

Don’t traumatize, believing men and women. Nowadays a lot of slandering happens on social media which is definitely a grave sin.

33:58 وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْذُونَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ بِغَيْرِ مَا اكْتَسَبُوا فَقَدِ احْتَمَلُوا بُهْتَانًا وَإِثْمًا مُّبِينًا

And those who traumatize believing men and women undeservedly, they are guilty indeed of a false accusation and a manifest sin.

Don’t be rude to parents and always speak to them kindly without showing any signs of irritation.

17:23 وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ

أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

Your Lord has decreed that you serve none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them with words of kindness.

Believers turn away from vain talks:

23:3 وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ

And those who turn away from the vain/senseless talk

The trusts of the people to be protected and returned with honesty when asked.

23:8 وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِأَمَانَاتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رَاعُونَ

Those who faithfully observe their trusts and their covenants;

61:3 كَبُرَ مَقْتًا عِندَ اللَّهِ أَن تَقُولُوا مَا لَا تَفْعَلُونَ

Grievously odious is it in the sight of Allah is that you say something on which you yourself don’t act upon.

Keep a fair balance between extravagant spending and miserliness

25:67 وَالَّذِينَ إِذَا أَنفَقُوا لَمْ يُسْرِفُوا وَلَمْ يَقْتُرُوا وَكَانَ بَيْنَ ذَٰلِكَ قَوَامًا

Those who, when they spend, are not extravagant and not niggardly, but hold a just (balance) between those (extremes)

No soul can be killed expect with Haq/truth, and stay away from illegal fornication.

25:68 وَالَّذِينَ لَا يَدْعُونَ مَعَ اللَّهِ إِلَٰهًا آخَرَ وَلَا يَقْتُلُونَ النَّفْسَ الَّتِي حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ إِلَّا بِالْحَقِّ وَلَا يَزْنُونَ ۚ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ يَلْقَ أَثَامًا

Those who don’t call, with Allah, any other god, nor kill any one which Allah has forbidden except for ‘Haq‘ and they do not commit fornication; – and any that does this meets punishment.

Don’t consider yourselves to be pure. Allah’s grace is for those who guard against big sins, crimes and debauchery. The smaller ones of their sins are then forgiven by Allah.

53:32 الَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ إِلَّا اللَّمَمَ ۚ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ وَاسِعُ الْمَغْفِرَةِ ۚ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِكُمْ إِذْ أَنشَأَكُم مِّنَ الْأَرْضِ وَإِذْ أَنتُمْ أَجِنَّةٌ فِي بُطُونِ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ ۖ فَلَا تُزَكُّوا أَنفُسَكُمْ ۖ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ اتَّقَىٰ

Those who avoid the big sins and shameful deeds, only (falling into) small faults,- verily your Lord is ample in forgiveness. He knows you well when He brings you forth from the earth, and when you are Jinn/hidden in your mothers’ wombs. Therefore justify not yourselves. He knows best who it is that guards against evil.

Feed the poors, needy, orphans and captives without expecting reward back from them only expecting your reward from Allah.

76:8-9 وَيُطْعِمُونَ الطَّعَامَ عَلَىٰ حُبِّهِ مِسْكِينًا وَيَتِيمًا وَأَسِيرًا إِنَّمَا نُطْعِمُكُمْ لِوَجْهِ اللَّهِ لَا نُرِيدُ مِنكُمْ جَزَاءً وَلَا شُكُورًا

And for His love they feed the food to the the poor, orphans and  captives, (they say) Surely we feed you only for the face of Allah. We do not expect any reward or thanks from you.

If your adversary offers peace, then accept it and have confidence in Allah (8:61)

8:61 وَإِن جَنَحُوا لِلسَّلْمِ فَاجْنَحْ لَهَا وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ

And if they lower wings for Islam / Peace so you also lower the wings for it And you trust on Allah. Surely He is All hearing and All knowing.

Return a greeting in a better manner (4:86)

4:86 وَإِذَا حُيِّيتُم بِتَحِيَّةٍ فَحَيُّوا بِأَحْسَنَ مِنْهَا أَوْ رُدُّوهَا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ حَسِيبًا

When a greeting is offered to you, meet it with a better greeting , or return the same. Allah takes account of all things.

Don’t remind others of your favours i.e don’t devalue your favor on people with constant reminders and banters.

2:264 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُم بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَىٰ كَالَّذِي يُنفِقُ مَالَهُ رِئَاءَ النَّاسِ وَلَا يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ ۖ فَمَثَلُهُ كَمَثَلِ صَفْوَانٍ عَلَيْهِ تُرَابٌ فَأَصَابَهُ وَابِلٌ فَتَرَكَهُ صَلْدًا ۖ لَّا يَقْدِرُونَ عَلَىٰ شَيْءٍ مِّمَّا كَسَبُوا ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْكَافِرِينَ

O you who believe! Do not ruin your charity by reminders of  generosity or by insult,- like those who spend their wealth for showing off to people, but do not really believe in Allah and the Last Day. Their parable is like that of a hard, barren rock, on which is a little soil, on it falls heavy rain, which leaves it a bare stone. They will be able to do nothing with what they have earned and Allah does not guide rejecters.

The example of those who do spend their wealth in the way of Allah for the sake of strengthening their nafs against the inherent fear of poverty, is like an investment in one self. With the confidence of Allah’s being your supporter and protected from the fear of impoverishment that Satan brings in people, the self confidence in one self will make one a more capable and productive person.

2:265 وَمَثَلُ الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ أَمْوَالَهُمُ ابْتِغَاءَ مَرْضَاتِ اللَّهِ وَتَثْبِيتًا مِّنْ أَنفُسِهِمْ كَمَثَلِ جَنَّةٍ بِرَبْوَةٍ أَصَابَهَا وَابِلٌ فَآتَتْ أُكُلَهَا ضِعْفَيْنِ فَإِن لَّمْ يُصِبْهَا وَابِلٌ فَطَلٌّ ۗ وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ

And the example of those who spend their money, seeking good pleasures of Allah and to strengthen their nafs, is of a garden on raised land and heavy rain falls on it but makes it yield double increase of harvest, and if it doesn’t get heavy rain then light drizzle suffices and Allah is observant of what you do.

Make peace between two conflicting groups of believers. If one of the groups transgresses upon other then support the oppressed group until the oppressing group complies with the orders of Allah.

وَإِن طَائِفَتَانِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ اقْتَتَلُوا فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا ۖ فَإِن بَغَتْ إِحْدَاهُمَا عَلَى الْأُخْرَىٰ فَقَاتِلُوا الَّتِي تَبْغِي حَتَّىٰ تَفِيءَ إِلَىٰ أَمْرِ اللَّهِ ۚ فَإِن فَاءَتْ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا بِالْعَدْلِ وَأَقْسِطُوا ۖ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ

If two groups of the believers fall into a fight, make peace between them, and if one of them transgresses against the other, then you fight against the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; But if it complies, then make peace between them with justice, and be fair, for Allah loves those who are fair.

Lower your voice and talk moderately (31:19)

31:19 وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ

“And be moderate in your pace, and control your voice; for the most unpleasing of sounds is the braying of the donkey.”

Don’t rebuke or insult those who are called upon in divine matters beside Allah because who call them will then be offended and will not be able to reason and think clearly in that state. In this state they may start saying blasphemies which may infuriate the believers so this type of engagement will not be beneficial for anyone.

6:108 وَلَا تَسُبُّوا الَّذِينَ يَدْعُونَ مِن دُونِ اللَّهِ فَيَسُبُّوا اللَّهَ عَدْوًا بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ زَيَّنَّا لِكُلِّ أُمَّةٍ عَمَلَهُمْ ثُمَّ إِلَىٰ رَبِّهِم مَّرْجِعُهُمْ فَيُنَبِّئُهُم بِمَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ

Do not rebuke those whom they call upon besides Allah, lest they rebuke Allah in their ignorance. Thus We have made alluring to each people their doings. In the end will they return to their Lord, and We shall then tell them what they used to do.

Also, help financially those people who may be white collar but really needy. Out of dignity they don’t ask for money like beggers. So, be cautious of the white collar needy people and help them.

لِلْفُقَرَاءِ الَّذِينَ أُحْصِرُوا فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ لَا يَسْتَطِيعُونَ ضَرْبًا فِي الْأَرْضِ يَحْسَبُهُمُ الْجَاهِلُ أَغْنِيَاءَ مِنَ التَّعَفُّفِ تَعْرِفُهُم بِسِيمَاهُمْ لَا يَسْأَلُونَ النَّاسَ إِلْحَافًا ۗ وَمَا تُنفِقُوا مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ بِهِ عَلِيمٌ

(Sadqa) is for the poor, those who are restricted in the way of Allah, they do not have the means to strike in the earth, the ignorant accounts them as rich from their modesty. You will recognize them with their marks. They do not ask people persistently and whatever you spend from the betterment then Allah has knowledge of it.

Greet people when entering their home

24:27 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَدْخُلُوا بُيُوتًا غَيْرَ بُيُوتِكُمْ حَتَّىٰ تَسْتَأْنِسُوا وَتُسَلِّمُوا عَلَىٰ أَهْلِهَا ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

O you people who believe! Do not enter houses other than your own, until you have asked permission and greeted those in them, that is best for you, in order that you may take heed.

Be just, even against yourself & relatives, even your parents, whenever you stand to provide a witness, it should always be the just and truthful, devoid of emotion or leaning towards a party.

4:135 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ بِالْقِسْطِ شُهَدَاءَ لِلَّهِ وَلَوْ عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَوِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ ۚ إِن يَكُنْ غَنِيًّا أَوْ فَقِيرًا فَاللَّهُ أَوْلَىٰ بِهِمَا ۖ فَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا الْهَوَىٰ أَن تَعْدِلُوا ۚ وَإِن تَلْوُوا أَوْ تُعْرِضُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا

O you people who believe! Be the ones who stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses for Allah, even if this (witness) is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and if they (concerned parties) are rich or poor, as Allah is above all.Thus do not follow the desire (of your hearts), if you swerve or distort / decline to do justice, then verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.

When conveying the message of Allah to powerful people, talk gently to them.

فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَّيِّنًا لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ

“But speak to him gently; perchance he may take warning or fear (Allah).”

Do not criticize and mock people for the charities they give, however small.

9:79 الَّذِينَ يَلْمِزُونَ الْمُطَّوِّعِينَ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ فِي الصَّدَقَاتِ وَالَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ إِلَّا جُهْدَهُمْ فَيَسْخَرُونَ مِنْهُمْ ۙ سَخِرَ اللَّهُ مِنْهُمْ وَلَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ

Those who criticize the volunteers among the believers in charities; that they only have their effort to give; so they mock them and Allah mocks them (the mockers), and they will have a painful retribution

Don’t disparage and judge others in matters of faith. Your faith and understanding also keep on developing as Allah’s opens understanding of His ayah’s on you. You were also not always on the same level of faith earlier so stop judging and criticizing people.

4:94 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِذَا ضَرَبْتُمْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَتَبَيَّنُوا وَلَا تَقُولُوا لِمَنْ أَلْقَىٰ إِلَيْكُمُ السَّلَامَ لَسْتَ مُؤْمِنًا تَبْتَغُونَ عَرَضَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا فَعِندَ اللَّهِ مَغَانِمُ كَثِيرَةٌ ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ كُنتُم مِّن قَبْلُ فَمَنَّ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكُمْ فَتَبَيَّنُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا

O you people who believe! When you strike in the way of Allah, then explain clearly, and do not say to any one who greets you that he is not a believer. You look for the goods of the life of the world while Allah has gains in abundance. You were like this yourselves before, thus Allah conferred on you His favours. Therefore explain clearly, Verily Allah is aware of what you do.

Children should be trained not to enter to your private bedrooms without asking permission first.

وَإِذَا بَلَغَ الْأَطْفَالُ مِنكُمُ الْحُلُمَ فَلْيَسْتَأْذِنُوا كَمَا اسْتَأْذَنَ الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِهِمْ ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

But when the children among you come of age, let them (also) ask for permission, as do those senior to them (in age). Thus does Allah make clear His Signs to you. for Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom.

Don’t order others to do good while forgetting it yourself.

2:44 أَتَأْمُرُونَ النَّاسَ بِالْبِرِّ وَتَنسَوْنَ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ تَتْلُونَ الْكِتَابَ ۚ أَفَلَا تَعْقِلُونَ

Do you order people with righteousness and you forget yourselves and you recite Al-Kitab so do you not understand.

Verify information that you share with others. It may happen that you receive information and distribute the same without verifying it authenticity then it can become a source of shame for you.

49:6 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِن جَاءَكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَإٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أَن تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ

O’ you people who believe if a ‘fasiq’/immoral person comes to you with a news, so seek clarification lest you may send (the news) to a nation with ignorance thus you begin the day regretting over what you have done.

Those with abundance should spend on the less fortunate ones, mingle with them and overlook their mistakes. They should consider how they want to be treated by Allah, obviously they want Allah to forgive them and continue His blessings on them, in the same way they should continue supporting less fortunate people in their community.

24:22 وَلَا يَأْتَلِ أُولُو الْفَضْلِ مِنكُمْ وَالسَّعَةِ أَن يُؤْتُوا أُولِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينَ وَالْمُهَاجِرِينَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ۖ وَلْيَعْفُوا وَلْيَصْفَحُوا ۗ أَلَا تُحِبُّونَ أَن يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

Let not those amongst you who have  been blessed with abundance and means, refuse to give to their near ones, the poor and those who migrate in Allah’s cause. Let them forgive/overlook and shake hands/mingle, do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

If unable to help a needy person, at least speak nice words

17:28 وَإِمَّا تُعْرِضَنَّ عَنْهُمُ ابْتِغَاءَ رَحْمَةٍ مِّن رَّبِّكَ تَرْجُوهَا فَقُل لَّهُمْ قَوْلًا مَّيْسُورًا

And even if you have to turn away from them (needy person) in pursuit of the grace from your Lord which you expect, you speak to them kindly.

Retaliate to an equivalent manner to how you were treated, but to be patient is better.

16: 126 وَإِنْ عَاقَبْتُمْ فَعَاقِبُوا بِمِثْلِ مَا عُوقِبْتُم بِهِ ۖ وَلَئِن صَبَرْتُمْ لَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لِّلصَّابِرِينَ

And if ye persue them then persue them to the extent of which you were persued, but if ye show patience, that is indeed the best (course) for those who are patient.

Don’t enter homes without permission & return if refused entry (24:27-28)

24:27-28 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَدْخُلُوا بُيُوتًا غَيْرَ بُيُوتِكُمْ حَتَّىٰ تَسْتَأْنِسُوا وَتُسَلِّمُوا فَإِن لَّمْ تَجِدُوا فِيهَا أَحَدًا فَلَا تَدْخُلُوهَا حَتَّىٰ يُؤْذَنَ لَكُمْ ۖ وَإِن قِيلَ لَكُمُ ارْجِعُوا فَارْجِعُوا ۖ هُوَ أَزْكَىٰ لَكُمْ ۚ وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ عَلِيمٌعَلَىٰ أَهْلِهَا ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

O you people who believe! Do not enter houses other than your own, until you have asked permission and greeted those in them, that is best for you, in order that you may take heed. If you find no one in the house, enter not until permission is given to you. if you are asked to go back, go back. that makes for greater purity for yourselves. and Allah knows well what you do.

Don’t sit with those who mock the ayahs of Quran until they change the subject

4:140 وَقَدْ نَزَّلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ أَنْ إِذَا سَمِعْتُمْ آيَاتِ اللَّهِ يُكْفَرُ بِهَا وَيُسْتَهْزَأُ بِهَا فَلَا تَقْعُدُوا مَعَهُمْ حَتَّىٰ يَخُوضُوا فِي حَدِيثٍ غَيْرِهِ ۚ إِنَّكُمْ إِذًا مِّثْلُهُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ جَامِعُ الْمُنَافِقِينَ وَالْكَافِرِينَ فِي جَهَنَّمَ جَمِيعًا

He has sent down to you in the Book; when you hear ayahs of Allah being rejected and ridiculed with then do-not sit with those doing it, until they engage in different discourse, if you did, you would be like them. Verily Allah will collect the hypocrites and rejecters in Hell together.

People should care more about displeasure of Allah than displeasure of people. Taking Allah for granted for getting good pleasures of non caring people is not going to make Allah happy.

40:10 إِنَّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا يُنَادَوْنَ لَمَقْتُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ مِن مَّقْتِكُمْ أَنفُسَكُمْ إِذْ تُدْعَوْنَ إِلَى الْإِيمَانِ فَتَكْفُرُونَ

The rejecters will be told, “Allah’s displeasure is far greater (a concern) than your displeasure, seeing that ye were called to the belief and ye used to cover it up.”

Divorce your women in an amicable manner not with the intention of causing harm to the women and doing transgression on them. Part ways with them on a good term and give them their dues in a pleasant manner.

2:231 وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ ۚ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًا لِّتَعْتَدُوا ۚ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ ۚ

When you divorce women, and they fulfil the term of their (‘Iddat), either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; but do not take them back to harm them, (or) to transgress on them; if any one does that; He wrongs his own self.

Don’t take women by force i.e don’t get into relationship with them without their liking, nor take back bridal gifts which had been given to them previously & live with them in kindness. If you find un-attractiveness in them it may be that you don’t like a thing but Allah may have created a lot of benefit in it for you.

4:19 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا النِّسَاءَ كَرْهًا ۖ وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا

O’ you people who believe, it is not lawful for you to inherit women in dislike/forcefully and do not restrain them so that you may go off with a part of what you have given to them except that they come with a clear obscenity and accompany them with recognition then if you dislike them so it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah has made/put much betterment in it.

Differences in color & language and birth place are not means of superiority. Any grace from Allah is due to the actions of an individual seeking Allah’s good pleasure. Racism is working of Satan, God has not given any preference to any race or nation.

49:13 يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا ۚ إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all thing