The Sign of Noah’s Ark

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Al-Quran informs us that the ark of prophet Nooh (a.s) has been made, an ayat/sign for the worlds (آيَةً لِّلْعَالَمِينَ). It means that the majority of people of the world should have seen this sign or know about it. It is another matter that they don’t realize what it is, even when they see it.

29:14-15 وَلَقَدْ أَرْسَلْنَا نُوحًا إِلَىٰ قَوْمِهِ فَلَبِثَ فِيهِمْ أَلْفَ سَنَةٍ إِلَّا خَمْسِينَ عَامًا فَأَخَذَهُمُ الطُّوفَانُ وَهُمْ ظَالِمُونَ فَأَنجَيْنَاهُ وَأَصْحَابَ السَّفِينَةِ وَجَعَلْنَاهَا آيَةً لِّلْعَالَمِينَ

We sent Nooh/Noah to his people, and he remained among them a thousand years except fifty, thus the deluge overtook them while they were unjust. But We saved him and the companions of the Ark, and We made the (Ark) a sign for all the worlds!
The Noah’s ark is a sign for all the world. Its not hidden from people’s eyes. Majority of the people of the world should have seen it either in person or remotely e.g in pictures if it is really such an ayat/sign as stated in Al-Quran.

Quran informs us about the nation of prophet Nooh (a.s). Prophet Nooh stayed and preached the message of the Lord for a long time, i.e serve Him alone and not to associate any with the Lord. However majority of his people did not believe in him despite prophet’s best efforts. Eventually the prophet was convinced that none of his people will accept the message except for those few who were already with him in faith. Then the prophet prayed to God to flush out the unbelievers from his land as they were only acting as distractors to the message of Allah. Allah ordained him to build an ark which was to sustain him and those with him from the flood which was ordained to overtake this land. Subsequently, a lot of water was released from the sky and the earth which cleansed the rejecters from this land. Prophet Nooh was instructed to prepare for bracing the flood waters. He prepared an ark with physical materials. This ark was made as per Allah’s guidance. He also gathered all necessary provisions for sustenance till the flood water recede. Subsequent to the flood, the land was cleansed of rejecters and the ark was made an ayat/sign for all eternity for the mankind.
In this post we will see what was the land of prophet Nooh (a.s), whether the flood was local to his land or global and what is the sign of the ark, left for posterity.

71-1-2 إِنَّا أَرْسَلْنَا نُوحًا إِلَىٰ قَوْمِهِ أَنْ أَنذِرْ قَوْمَكَ مِن قَبْلِ أَن يَأْتِيَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ قَالَ يَا قَوْمِ إِنِّي لَكُمْ نَذِيرٌ مُّبِينٌ

We sent Nooh to his people, “Warn your people before there comes to them a grievous penalty.” He said, “O my people! I am to you a warner, clear and open.

71:5-10 قَالَ رَبِّ إِنِّي دَعَوْتُ قَوْمِي لَيْلًا وَنَهَارًا فَلَمْ يَزِدْهُمْ دُعَائِي إِلَّا فِرَارًاوَإِنِّي كُلَّمَا دَعَوْتُهُمْ لِتَغْفِرَ لَهُمْ جَعَلُوا أَصَابِعَهُمْ فِي آذَانِهِمْ وَاسْتَغْشَوْا ثِيَابَهُمْ وَأَصَرُّوا وَاسْتَكْبَرُوا اسْتِكْبَارًا ثُمَّ إِنِّي دَعَوْتُهُمْ جِهَارًا ثُمَّ إِنِّي أَعْلَنتُ لَهُمْ وَأَسْرَرْتُ لَهُمْ إِسْرَارًا فَقُلْتُ اسْتَغْفِرُوا رَبَّكُمْ إِنَّهُ كَانَ غَفَّارًا

He said. “O my Lord! I called upon my people night and day. “But my call only increases (their) flight. Every time I called to them, that You (Allah) may forgive them, they thrust their fingers into their ears, covered themselves up with their garments and they increased in obstinacy and arrogance. Then I called to them openly. Then I addressed them in public and secretly in private. Thus I said, ‘Ask forgiveness from your Lord; for He is Most-Forgiving’.

71:26-28 وَقَالَ نُوحٌ رَّبِّ لَا تَذَرْ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ مِنَ الْكَافِرِينَ دَيَّارًا إِنَّكَ إِن تَذَرْهُمْ يُضِلُّوا عِبَادَكَ وَلَا يَلِدُوا إِلَّا فَاجِرًا كَفَّارًا رَّبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِمَن دَخَلَ بَيْتِيَ مُؤْمِنًا وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ وَلَا تَزِدِ الظَّالِمِينَ إِلَّا تَبَارًا

And Nooh, said. “O my Lord! leave not of the unbelievers, on the land! For, if You leave them, they will but mislead your servants, and they will breed none but wicked ungrateful ones. O my Lord! Forgive me and my parents and the believing men and believing women who enter my house, and do not increase the wrongdoers except in perdition”

Was Noah’s flood Global or local?

The flood was limited to the nation of Nooh as evident in the below ayahs.

25:37 وَقَوْمَ نُوحٍ لَّمَّا كَذَّبُوا الرُّسُلَ أَغْرَقْنَاهُمْ وَجَعَلْنَاهُمْ لِلنَّاسِ آيَةً ۖ وَأَعْتَدْنَا لِلظَّالِمِينَ عَذَابًا أَلِيمًا

And the nation of Nooh,- when they rejected the messengers, We drowned them, and We made them as a sign for mankind; and We have prepared for (all) wrong-doers a grievous penalty.
Only those people were drowned who rejected the ayahs of Allah.

10:73 فَكَذَّبُوهُ فَنَجَّيْنَاهُ وَمَن مَّعَهُ فِي الْفُلْكِ وَجَعَلْنَاهُمْ خَلَائِفَ وَأَغْرَقْنَا الَّذِينَ كَذَّبُوا بِآيَاتِنَا ۖ فَانظُرْ كَيْفَ كَانَ عَاقِبَةُ الْمُنذَرِينَ

They rejected Him, but We delivered him, and those with him, in the Ark, and We made them inherit (the land) while We overwhelmed those who rejected Our signs. Thus see what was the end of those who were warned (but heeded not)!

The land in above ayat should mean a specific land not the whole earth. The subsequent ayahs will tell us which specific land is being talked about i.e the Holy land of Haram in Makkah. Till this day we see that this land has been made devoid of apparent unbelievers i.e unbelievers are not allowed to enter this Holy land. Therefore we can deduce that the reference of removal of rejecters by flood does not mean global flooding but means flushing out rejecters from the Holy land.

If you pay attention to a structure called ‘Hateem’ near Kaaba, you will notice that it is shaped as an arc or boat. It is a sign for all the people and open for the world to see.  From an aerial view when people do Tawaf around Kaaba, Hateem, gives the visual of a boat floating on waves of water.

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11:41 وَقَالَ ارْكَبُوا فِيهَا بِسْمِ اللَّهِ مَجْرَاهَا وَمُرْسَاهَا ۚ إِنَّ رَبِّي لَغَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

So he said. “Embark on the Ark, it’s moving and staying is with the name of Allah! For my Lord is, be sure, Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful!”
People go round doing Tawaf of Kaaba reciting the name of Allah.

11:42-44 وَهِيَ تَجْرِي بِهِمْ فِي مَوْجٍ كَالْجِبَالِ وَنَادَىٰ نُوحٌ ابْنَهُ وَكَانَ فِي مَعْزِلٍ يَا بُنَيَّ ارْكَب مَّعَنَا وَلَا تَكُن مَّعَ الْكَافِرِينَ قَالَ سَآوِي إِلَىٰ جَبَلٍ يَعْصِمُنِي مِنَ الْمَاءِ ۚ قَالَ لَا عَاصِمَ الْيَوْمَ مِنْ أَمْرِ اللَّهِ إِلَّا مَن رَّحِمَ ۚ وَحَالَ بَيْنَهُمَا الْمَوْجُ فَكَانَ مِنَ الْمُغْرَقِينَ

So the ark floated with them on the waves (towering) like mountains, and Nooh called out to his son, who had separated himself “O my son! embark with us, and be not with the unbelievers!” The son replied, “I will take shelter in a mountain which will save me from the water.” Nooh said. “This day nothing can save, from the command of Allah, any but those on whom He has mercy! “And the waves came between them, and the son was among those overwhelmed.

When there are huge no. of people, the visual appears like the boat is floating on big waves of water.

36:41 وَآيَةٌ لَّهُمْ أَنَّا حَمَلْنَا ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ فِي الْفُلْكِ الْمَشْحُونِ

And a sign for them is that We made their progeny embark in the loaded ark;

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Prophet Nooh was instructed to prepare for bracing the flood waters. He prepared an ark with physical materials. This ark was made per Allah’s guidance. He also gathered all necessary provisions in terms of two pairs of all items for sustenance till the flood water recede.

23:27-30 فَأَوْحَيْنَا إِلَيْهِ أَنِ اصْنَعِ الْفُلْكَ بِأَعْيُنِنَا وَوَحْيِنَا فَإِذَا جَاءَ أَمْرُنَا وَفَارَ التَّنُّورُ ۙ فَاسْلُكْ فِيهَا مِن كُلٍّ زَوْجَيْنِ اثْنَيْنِ وَأَهْلَكَ إِلَّا مَن سَبَقَ عَلَيْهِ الْقَوْلُ مِنْهُمْ ۖ وَلَا تُخَاطِبْنِي فِي الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُوا ۖ إِنَّهُم مُّغْرَقُونَ فَإِذَا اسْتَوَيْتَ أَنتَ وَمَن مَّعَكَ عَلَى الْفُلْكِ فَقُلِ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي نَجَّانَا مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ وَقُل رَّبِّ أَنزِلْنِي مُنزَلًا مُّبَارَكًا وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْمُنزِلِينَ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ وَإِن كُنَّا لَمُبْتَلِينَ

So We inspired him (Nooh): “Construct the ark within Our sight and under Our guidance: then when comes Our command, and the fountain gushes forth, take on board all of two pairs (as provisions), and your near ones- except those against whom the word has already gone forth: And address Me not in favour of the wrong-doers; for they shall be drowned. And when you and those with you are settled on the ark, then say. “Praise be to Allah, who has saved us from the unjust people”. And say. “O my Lord! enable me to disembark with your blessing, for You are the best to enable (us) to disembark”. Verily in this there are signs and We do do take trials.
The ark was made with the guidance of Allah. The particular shape of Hateem causes the Tawaf around Kaaba to be in elliptical shape like all celestial objects which orbit around their centers. The Sha’air (شَعَائِرِ)/signs of this place i.e the house of Allah, Hateem, Saffa, Marwa and the well of Zamzam are all structures with location and shapes in accordance with divine wisdom.

11:39 وَيَصْنَعُ الْفُلْكَ وَكُلَّمَا مَرَّ عَلَيْهِ مَلَأٌ مِّن قَوْمِهِ سَخِرُوا مِنْهُ ۚ قَالَ إِن تَسْخَرُوا مِنَّا فَإِنَّا نَسْخَرُ مِنكُمْ كَمَا تَسْخَرُونَ

He (Nooh) was constructing the ark, every time that the chiefs of his people passed by him, they threw ridicule on him. He said. “you ridicule us (now), then (later on) we will be ridiculing you likewise!
Possible scenario of the event that happened at prophet Nooh’s time could be that, when the appointed time came, Allah caused torrential rains and flooding in the valley of Makkah. Kaaba is located at the low land of the valley of Makkah. The huge rainfall and the water gushing forth from the ground would flow towards Kaaba and gather there. The Ark made by Prophet Nooh A.S should be an ark big enough so that the people with him could stay safely on it. This flooding would last long enough to flush the rejecters from the Holy land. 
Also, considering allegorically, when the earth is filled with evil temptation as if being released from the skies and earth and people feel they may be overwhelmed by the enormity of evil temptations around them, then the refuge for them is the House of the Lord.

54:10-15 فَدَعَا رَبَّهُ أَنِّي مَغْلُوبٌ فَانتَصِرْ فَفَتَحْنَا أَبْوَابَ السَّمَاءِ بِمَاءٍ مُّنْهَمِرٍ وَفَجَّرْنَا الْأَرْضَ عُيُونًا فَالْتَقَى الْمَاءُ عَلَىٰ أَمْرٍ قَدْ قُدِرَ وَحَمَلْنَاهُ عَلَىٰ ذَاتِ أَلْوَاحٍ وَدُسُرٍ تَجْرِي بِأَعْيُنِنَا جَزَاءً لِّمَن كَانَ كُفِرَ وَلَقَد تَّرَكْنَاهَا آيَةً فَهَلْ مِن مُّدَّكِرٍ

Then he called upon his Lord. “I have been overcome, thus You help me. So We opened the gates of heaven, with water pouring forth. And We caused the earth to gush forth with springs, so the waters met (and rose) to the extent decreed. We bore him on an (Ark) made of tablets and nails. It floats under our eyes (and care). a recompense to one who rejects. And We have left this as a sign, then is there any that will remember?

After the rejecters were flushed out of the Holy land the water receded and the Ark rested at placed named ‘Judi’ in Quran. The sign of this ark is left for all eternity in the shape of Hateem at this place. When people do Tawaf around Kaaba, an aerial view of ‘Hateem’ looks like a boat floating on waves of water. The present ‘Hateem’ is left as a sign of the actual ark for posterity.

11:44 وَقِيلَ يَا أَرْضُ ابْلَعِي مَاءَكِ وَيَا سَمَاءُ أَقْلِعِي وَغِيضَ الْمَاءُ وَقُضِيَ الْأَمْرُ وَاسْتَوَتْ عَلَى الْجُودِيِّ ۖ وَقِيلَ بُعْدًا لِّلْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ

And was said “O earth! swallow up your water, and O sky! withhold!” and the water abated, and the matter was settled and (the Ark) rested on Al- Judi, and was said “Away with the unjusts!”
Prophet Nooh and his companions were made the Khalifas/Vicegerent of the Holy land (10:73).

11:48 قِيلَ يَا نُوحُ اهْبِطْ بِسَلَامٍ مِّنَّا وَبَرَكَاتٍ عَلَيْكَ وَعَلَىٰ أُمَمٍ مِّمَّن مَّعَكَ ۚ وَأُمَمٌ سَنُمَتِّعُهُمْ ثُمَّ يَمَسُّهُم مِّنَّا عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ

It was said “O Nooh! come down (from the ark) with peace from Us, and blessing on you and on some of the nations from those with you and (other) nations to whom We shall grant blessings, then a grievous penalty will reach them from Us.”

Notes:

1- Almost all celestial bodies rotate in the same direction i.e anti-clockwise direction elliptically, as ‘tawaf’ around the house of the Lord.

Geek Answers: Why do all planets rotate and orbit in the same direction?

The word أَرْضُ‘/Ard’ used in The Quran 71:26 related to not leaving rejectors on earth, should mean ground/land and not necessarily mean whole of Earth. Examples of usage of ‘Ard’ for Land in Quran are given below:

7:110 …he wants to drive you out from your land

7:137 We let the people who were oppressed inherit the east and the west of the land which We have blessed…

12:9 “Kill Joseph or cast him to a land

12:80 …I will not leave the land until my father permits me…

14:13 …We will expel you from our land

20:57 He said: “Have you come to us to take us out of our land

Ar-Rum (the Romans)

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

30:2-6 غُلِبَتِ الرُّومُ  فِي أَدْنَى الْأَرْضِ وَهُم مِّن بَعْدِ غَلَبِهِمْ سَيَغْلِبُونَ  فِي بِضْعِ سِنِينَ ۗ لِلَّهِ الْأَمْرُ مِن قَبْلُ وَمِن بَعْدُ ۚ وَيَوْمَئِذٍ يَفْرَحُ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ  بِنَصْرِ اللَّهِ ۚ يَنصُرُ مَن يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الرَّحِيمُ  وَعْدَ اللَّهِ ۖ لَا يُخْلِفُ اللَّهُ وَعْدَهُ وَلَٰكِنَّ أَكْثَرَ النَّاسِ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ  

The Rums have been overpowered. In the land close by; but they, after (this) defeat of theirs, will be victorious, within a few years. With Allah is the order, in the past and in the future and on that day, the believers will rejoice, with the help of Allah. He helps whom He wills, and He is exalted in might, most merciful. (It is) the promise of Allah. Never does Allah depart from His promise. but most people do not understand.

The root word R u m (ر و م) is described in lexicons with range of meanings as given below:

Desired/sought after, to seek/search, to wait/pause/expect, be patient, to mock/ridicule. Greeks, Byzantines, Romans.  Rum n. 30:2  LL, V3, p: 359, 360

‘Ar- Rum’ in above Ayahs most probably stands for  ‘the researchers’ and ‘seekers’ who are normally people with progressive minds and beliefs. The opposites of them are the frozen minded people, who believe that any new idea or research in Deen/Judgment is ‘Biddat’ or innovation. The Rums are not exactly aligned with the believers in their beliefs but have some logical approach in common with believers so that their victory over the cultists and frozen minded people would be a matter of joy for the believers.

The above Ayahs forecasts that the Rums were overwhelmed by the non Rums earlier however they will be victorious in near future.

We may take this example for couple of events which we witnessed recently;

Commencement of lunar months by calendar or by eye witness:

There are two major groups in matters of lunar month determination now a days. One group is adamant that the start of the lunar month should be witnessed by actually seeing the new moon with the naked eye by some one in the community. The basis for it is their belief that this instruction is from the prophet of God which is recorded in Hadith books.

The other group which is progressive, maintains that moon positions are well known with telescopes and calculations and are not an unknown factor. There is no way the prophet of God would have conveyed an instruction from God, regarding a religious matter, for all eternity, which is against logic i.e to actually see the moon before witnessing the start of lunar month. Therefore this instruction attributed to the prophet, is doubtful and we can make use of more accurate and precise tools available to us for witnessing the start of lunar month.

Then the believers are those whose belief is based on Al-Quran. They know that actual  instructions of the prophet’s are those which are recorded by Allah in Al-Quran.  Regarding the moon, when people asked him about the moon he said that it is for ‘Mawaqeet lill naas’ i.e for scheduling of people. The scheduling of lunar months is done by calendar. We cannot schedule any event in future in different parts of the world, if the start of the month is doubtful and depends upon such factors as actual eye witness. Therefore for this matter the believers and Rums are in line. Please note that this is just an example to understand the concept of Ar-Rum.

At present the other groups are in majority and start of the lunar month is with actual eye witnessing of the moon however, later on the situation will change and the majority situation will change.

Notes:

Notes:

Most translations and tafsirs describe ‘Ar-Rum’ as the Romans.  They say that the believers were rejoicing the victory of Romans over Iranians who were infidels at that time while Romans were Christians. This is quite doubtful as Romans at that time were no friends to believers either.

 

 

Inheritance Distribution

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

It is incumbent upon the believers that when facing death, one should leave a ‘will or testament’ for the parents and the close relatives. The will should not be unjust ( غَيْرَ مُضَارٍّ)to any one, for example if one or more of the close relatives have circumstances because of a particular situation that he/she deserves extra provisions, then that should be granted in the will.

2:180  كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذَا حَضَرَ أَحَدَكُمُ الْمَوْتُ إِن تَرَكَ خَيْرًا الْوَصِيَّةُ لِلْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۖ حَقًّا عَلَى الْمُتَّقِينَ

It is written on you (people) that, when death approaches any of you, if he leaves any good that he makes a bequest for parents and next of kin in a known/reasonable manner; it is binding on those who take guard.

The above Ayat is not abrogated after the 4:11-12. It simply means that if you don’t leave instructions to distribute your inheritance as per injunctions of Allah, it will not be automatically distributed as per Allah’s orders. Also, you are the best judge of particular circumstances of your family, therefore any adjustments which needs be made can be made in the will as some family members may need more or less than others due to their particular situation. 

4:33  وَلِكُلٍّ جَعَلْنَا مَوَالِيَ مِمَّا تَرَكَ الْوَالِدَانِ وَالْأَقْرَبُونَ ۚ وَالَّذِينَ عَقَدَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ فَآتُوهُمْ نَصِيبَهُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ شَهِيدًا

For everyone, We have made heirs out of inheritance of parents and relatives. And to those people who have taken pledge from your right hand, give them their due portion. Verily Allah is witness to all things.

Those people who have pledges/(I owe you) notes, they should be paid their due share.

2:240  وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا وَصِيَّةً لِّأَزْوَاجِهِم مَّتَاعًا إِلَى الْحَوْلِ غَيْرَ إِخْرَاجٍ ۚ فَإِنْ خَرَجْنَ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي مَا فَعَلْنَ فِي أَنفُسِهِنَّ مِن مَّعْرُوفٍ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ

Those of you who die and leave pairs/spouses, should enjoin for their spouses allowance and provision towards an environment of non exit ; but if they leave, there is no blame on you for what they do with themselves, reasonably and Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise.

First step logically for a person facing death, is to ensure that the spouse has enough provision to keep on living in the same environment with family/kids after him, without having to exit that environment . If the wives later decide for themselves to exit to improve their conditions for example get a job etc. or to marry again, then no blame on the person as obviously he may not be able to provide for in-definite period of time. Normally, in many developed countries this is achieved by having some kind of insurance policy.

5:106  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا شَهَادَةُ بَيْنِكُمْ إِذَا حَضَرَ أَحَدَكُمُ الْمَوْتُ حِينَ الْوَصِيَّةِ اثْنَانِ ذَوَا عَدْلٍ مِّنكُمْ أَوْ آخَرَانِ مِنْ غَيْرِكُمْ…..

 Ye who believe! When death approaches any of you, (take) witnesses among yourselves when making bequests,- two just men of your own (brotherhood) or others from outside….

The will or testament should be documented and signed off by at least two witnesses.

After adjustment of payment of debts/liabilities and adjustments made for particular situations for close relatives in the will (Quran does not put any limitation on this amount), the remaining amount of inheritance to be distributed among close relatives according to instruction in Ayas 4:11-12 and 4:176.

4:11  يُوصِيكُمُ اللَّهُ فِي أَوْلَادِكُمْ ۖ لِلذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَظِّ الْأُنثَيَيْنِ ۚ فَإِن كُنَّ نِسَاءً فَوْقَ اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُنَّ ثُلُثَا مَا تَرَكَ ۖ وَإِن كَانَتْ وَاحِدَةً فَلَهَا النِّصْفُ ۚ وَلِأَبَوَيْهِ لِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ مِمَّا تَرَكَ إِن كَانَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ ۚ فَإِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهُ وَلَدٌ وَوَرِثَهُ أَبَوَاهُ فَلِأُمِّهِ الثُّلُثُ ۚ فَإِن كَانَ لَهُ إِخْوَةٌ فَلِأُمِّهِ السُّدُسُ ۚ مِن بَعْدِ وَصِيَّةٍ يُوصِي بِهَا أَوْ دَيْنٍ ۗ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ لَا تَدْرُونَ أَيُّهُمْ أَقْرَبُ لَكُمْ نَفْعًا ۚ فَرِيضَةً مِّنَ اللَّهِ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا

4:12  وَلَكُمْ نِصْفُ مَا تَرَكَ أَزْوَاجُكُمْ إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهُنَّ وَلَدٌ ۚ فَإِن كَانَ لَهُنَّ وَلَدٌ فَلَكُمُ الرُّبُعُ مِمَّا تَرَكْنَ ۚ مِن بَعْدِ وَصِيَّةٍ يُوصِينَ بِهَا أَوْ دَيْنٍ ۚ وَلَهُنَّ الرُّبُعُ مِمَّا تَرَكْتُمْ إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّكُمْ وَلَدٌ ۚ فَإِن كَانَ لَكُمْ وَلَدٌ فَلَهُنَّ الثُّمُنُ مِمَّا تَرَكْتُم ۚ مِّن بَعْدِ وَصِيَّةٍ تُوصُونَ بِهَا أَوْ دَيْنٍ ۗ وَإِن كَانَ رَجُلٌ يُورَثُ كَلَالَةً أَوِ امْرَأَةٌ وَلَهُ أَخٌ أَوْ أُخْتٌ فَلِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ ۚ فَإِن كَانُوا أَكْثَرَ مِن ذَٰلِكَ فَهُمْ شُرَكَاءُ فِي الثُّلُثِ ۚ مِن بَعْدِ وَصِيَّةٍ يُوصَىٰ بِهَا أَوْ دَيْنٍ غَيْرَ مُضَارٍّ ۚ وَصِيَّةً مِّنَ اللَّهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَلِيمٌ

4:176  يَسْتَفْتُونَكَ قُلِ اللَّهُ يُفْتِيكُمْ فِي الْكَلَالَةِ ۚ إِنِ امْرُؤٌ هَلَكَ لَيْسَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ وَلَهُ أُخْتٌ فَلَهَا نِصْفُ مَا تَرَكَ ۚ وَهُوَ يَرِثُهَا إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهَا وَلَدٌ ۚ فَإِن كَانَتَا اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُمَا الثُّلُثَانِ مِمَّا تَرَكَ ۚ وَإِن كَانُوا إِخْوَةً رِّجَالًا وَنِسَاءً فَلِلذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَظِّ الْأُنثَيَيْنِ ۗ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ أَن تَضِلُّوا ۗ وَاللَّهُ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمٌ

4:11 Allah enjoins you in your offsprings. For the male, the example is of the portion of two females. If the women are more than two, their share is two-thirds of what he left; if only one, her share is a half. For each of the parents, a sixth , if he (deceased) has a son/child; if he has no son/child and both parents inherit him, then for the mother is the third; if the deceased left brothers (siblings) then for the mother is the sixth, after carrying out the will or debts. You do not know whether your parents or your children are nearer to you in your benefit. This is an obligation from Allah; and Allah is All-knowing, All-wise.

4:12 For you is half in what your wives leave, if they leave no son/child; but if they leave a son/child, then for you is the fourth in what they leave; after carrying out the will and debts. In what you leave, their(wives) share is a fourth, if you leave no son/child; but if you leave a son/child, then for them the share is an eighth; after carrying out the Will and debts. In case the man or woman is inherited by Kalalah, and has a brother or a sister, each one of the two gets a sixth; but if they are more than two, then all share in the third; after payment of legacies and debts; so that no loss is caused (to any one). Thus is it ordained by Allah; and Allah is All-knowing, Most Forbearing.

4:176  They ask you (messenger) for a fatwa/advice. Say. Allah gives you fatwa/advice in Kalalah. If a man dies for him there is no son/child, and  he has a sister then for her is half of what he left and he will inherit her if she does not have a son/child, and If they are two (females) they shall have two-thirds out of what he left and if there are brothers and sisters, then for a male is a share like share of two females. Thus Allah makes clear to you, lest you go astray, and Allah has knowledge of all things

The claimants on inheritance as per above three Ayahs are the following relatives of the deceased:

  1. Children
  2. Parents
  3. Spouses
  4. Siblings

Basic assumptions of inheritance calculations in this post are given below:

  1. Total amount of inheritance available for distribution is assumed to be 100 units i.e after will and payment of debts/liabilities.
  2.  Sum of the distributable shares should equal the total inherited amount. E.g if the inheritors of deceased are his Children, parents, Spouse and Siblings, then the sum of all shares of share holders should equal to the total i.e 100. 

Share of children + share of parents + share of spouses + share of siblings = Total (100)

Above equation is the basic equation for inheritance calculation. We will substitute the values of each in the above equation.

Ratio of distribution of inheritance between male and female children:

4:11  يُوصِيكُمُ اللَّهُ فِي أَوْلَادِكُمْ ۖ لِلذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَظِّ الْأُنثَيَيْنِ ۚ فَإِن كُنَّ نِسَاءً فَوْقَ اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُنَّ ثُلُثَا مَا تَرَكَ ۖ وَإِن كَانَتْ وَاحِدَةً فَلَهَا النِّصْفُ ۚ

Allah enjoins you with regards to your Children’s (Inheritance). For the male, the example is portion of two females. If the women are more than two, their share is two-thirds of what he left; if only one, her share is a half.

The above statement defines the ratio between males and females shares in offspring’s as this Ayat states male share as an example of females shares when females are 1 or more.

In case of upto two daughters: ratio of son to daughter share is    2:1         (1 / 0.5 = 2)

In case of more than two daughters: ratio of son to daughter is    1.5 : 1    ( 1 / (2/3) = 1.5)

Point to note here is that above statement is describing the ratio of inheritance between the male and female children e.g the expression in Ayat 4:11, ‘if only one, her share is a half’ is referring to the ratio of son’s to daughter’s share, and not to half of total inheritance value.

There is a school of thought who considers above injunction of 1/2 (incase of 1 female) and 2/3 ( in case of more than 2 females), applicable to whole of inheritance, instead of considering it as a ratio between male and female children. 

However, with this line of thinking, several problem arise, as given below:

 1 – What is the injunction in case of exactly two females?

2.  Just after Allah enjoined the ratio between male and females then why He would fix 2/3rd portion of total inheritance for more than 2 females, instead of keeping it on basis of ratios just mentioned.

3. If 2/3 is a fixed portion of inheritance for more than 2 females instead of a ratio, then there will be certain cases where we will not able to distribute shares for example, when there are 3 daughters, 1 husband and mother and father. In this case three daughters will get 2/3, husband gets 1/4 and parents each get 1/6. There will be not enough to distribute if we consider it as fixed amount instead of a ratio.

An objection by some people is, why Allah discriminates in distribution of inheritance giving preference to males over females. The reason could be because in general males have more responsibilities in providing for household, than females.  However, if a particular family situation is different, e.g females carry more responsibility of the household expenditure, then extra provision for them can be provided in the will, which is to be carried out before distribution of shares.

Example 1:  (1 son and 1 daughter only)

Lets assume total inheritance =100. The total of shares of all inheritors should equal 100. Now, assume daughter’s share to be ‘x;, then son’s share becomes 2x, and the formula becomes as below :لِلذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَظِّ الْأُنثَيَيْنِ

Total inheritance= Son’s share + Daughter’s share= 100
2x + x = 100
3x= 100
x= 100/3
Daugher’s share x= 33.33
Son’s share 2x = 2 x 33.33= 66.67

Example 2:  (One daughter only)

Lets assume total inheritance =100. First equation is, total share of inheritors should equal 100. Now, as one daughter is the only share holder other shareholder’s share will be 0, so daughters share will be 100.

Total inheritance= All other inheritors + Daughter’s share= 100
0 + Daughter’s share 100
x + 0 100
x= 100
Daugher’s share is = 100

Example 3:  (2 son and 3 daughter only)

The equation is total shares of all inheritors should equal 100. Now, assume daughter’s share is x, then son’s share becomes 1.5x, and the formula becomes as below: لِلذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَظِّ) (الْأُنثَيَيْنِ ۚ فَإِن كُنَّ نِسَاءً فَوْقَ اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُنَّ ثُلُثَا مَا تَرَكَ

Share of sons + share of daughters = 100

1.5x + 1.5x + x + x +x = 100

3x + 3x = 100

6x = 100

x = 100/6 = 16.67

Each daughter share = x = 16.67

Each son’s share = 1.5x =   25

Share of Parents:

….  وَلِأَبَوَيْهِ لِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ مِمَّا تَرَكَ إِن كَانَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ…..

For each of the parents, a sixth , if he (deceased) has son/child;

Example 4:   Father, 1 daughter, 1 son

Total inheritance 100. Lets assume daugher’s share to be ‘x’ , then son’s share will be 2x and Fathers share is 1/6th

 Total share of inheritors  = 100

Sons’ share + daughter’s share + Father’s share = 100

2x + x + 100/6  = 100

3x + 100/6 = 100

3x  = 100 – 100/6

3x = 83.33

x= 27.78

Daughter’s share = x = 27.78

Son’s share = 2x = 55.56

Fathers share= 100/6 = 16.67

Example 5:   Father, mother, 3 daughters, 3 sons

Lets assume total inheritance= 100, assume each daughter’s share to be ‘x’,   then each son’s share will be 1.5x,  Father’s share is 1/6th and Mother’s share is also 1/6th of inheritance

Total shares of inheritors  = 100

Sons’ share + daughters’ share + Father’s share+ Mother’s share = 100

1.5x + 1.5x +1.5x +x + x + x + 100/6 + 100/6 = 100

7.5x + 200/6 = 100

7.5 x = 100 – 200/6

7.5x = 66.67

x = 8.89

Each daughter’s share = 8.89

Each son’s share = 1.5x = 1.5 x 8.89 = 13.33

Father’s share = Mothers share = 16.67

4:11 …..  فَإِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهُ وَلَدٌ وَوَرِثَهُ أَبَوَاهُ فَلِأُمِّهِ الثُّلُثُ   ….

if no son or daughter, and both parents are heirs, mother has a third;

Example 6:    Only Mother and father and no children

Mother’s share + Father’s share = 100

assume fathers share as x,

100/3 + x = 100

x = 100 – 100/3 = 66.67 = Father’s share

Mother’s share = 100/3 = 33.67

وَلَكُمْ نِصْفُ مَا تَرَكَ أَزْوَاجُكُمْ إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهُنَّ وَلَدٌ4:12

Your share is a half in what your wives leave, if for them is no child….

Example 7:  husband and Father only, no kids

Assume total inheritance 100. Husband share is 1/2. There are two heirs only so the equation is:

Husband’s share + Father’s share = 100

100/2  + Father’s share = 100

Father’s share = 100 – 50 = 50

Husband’s share = 50

Ex 8: husband, father and mother only, no kids

Assume total inheritance 100. Husband’s share is 1/2. Mother’s share is 1/3 and assume father’s share to be x:

(فَإِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهُ وَلَدٌ وَوَرِثَهُ أَبَوَاهُ فَلِأُمِّهِ الثُّلُثُ  )

Husband + Mother + Father’s share = 100

100/2 + 100/3 + x= 100

x= 100 – 100/2 – 100/3

Father’s share = 16.67

Mother;s share = 33.33

Husband’s share = 50

4:12  … فَإِن كَانَ لَهُنَّ وَلَدٌ فَلَكُمُ الرُّبُعُ

Ex 9: One daugher 1 son, and husband

Assume x for the daughter, then son gets 2x and husband gets 1/4 of inheritance

x + 2x + 100/4 = 100

3x = 100 – 25

x = 25

Daughter’s share = 25, Son’s share = 50, Husband’s share = 25

Ex 10: One daughter and husband

Assume total amount =100. Assume x for daughter’s share, Husband’s share is 100/4.

x + 100/4 = 100

x = 75

Daughter’s share = 75, Husband’s share = 25

4:12 …. وَلَهُنَّ الرُّبُعُ مِمَّا تَرَكْتُمْ إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّكُمْ وَلَدٌ ۚ

Ex 11: 1 wife, mother and father only no kids

Wife get 1/4 of inheritance, mother get 1/3 of inheritance as per 4:11, assume x for father

x + 100/3 + 100/4 = 100

x = 100- 33.33 – 25= 41.66

Mother gets 33.33, Father gets 41.66, wife gets 25

Ex 12: 1 wife and mother only no kids

Wife get 1/4 of inheritance as per 4:12, mother’s share was to be 1/3 when both parents were present as in Ayat 4:11, in this case as both parents are not there, therefore mother’s share is not fixed at 1/3 but is variable. Assume mother’s share = x

x +  100/4 = 100

x = 100 – 25= 75

Mother gets 75, wife gets 25

4:12  …  ۚ فَإِن كَانَ لَكُمْ وَلَدٌ فَلَهُنَّ الثُّمُنُ مِمَّا تَرَكْتُم

Ex 13: Two son’s two daughters and 2 wives

Assume x for the daughter’s share, then son gets 2x, both wives share in 1/8

2x + 4x + 100/8 = 100

6x = 87.50

x = 14.58

Each daughter’s share = 14.58, each son’s share = 29.16

Each wife’s share = 6.25

Example 14:  husband, mother, father, 2 sons and 3 daughters

Husband’s share is fixed at 1/4. Mothers and father’s each share is 1/6 (4:11). Assume x for the daughter’s share then sons share is 1.5x:

Husband + Mother + Father + Daughters + Sons = 100

100/4 + 100/6 + 100/6 + x +x +x + 1.5x + 1.5x = 100

6x  = 100 – 100/4 – 100/6 – 100/6

6x = 100 – 25 – 16.67 – 16.67

6x = 41.67

x= 6.94 = each daughter’s share,

Each son’s share = 1.5x = 10.41, Husband’s share = 25, Father and mothers share each = 16.67

Kalalah Cases:

Quran uses a word ‘Kalalah’ for inheritance distribution in certain cases. The word ‘Kalalah’ however is not well defined in dictionaries. Religious scholars have tried to guess the meanings of ‘Kalalah’ on the basis of two Ayas i.e 4:12 and 4:176. What they came up with the interpretation as ‘a person leaving behind no offsprings nor parents/grandparents’. The problem however remained with this interpretation is that the distribution of shares described in 4:12 and 4:176 both concern siblings however both Ayahs describe different distribution for siblings. The traditionalists found a way out of this predicament by assuming that one Ayat to be used for distribution of shares of real siblings and the other for calculating shares of uterine siblings. However this interpretation at best seems lame and arbitrary as Ayahs don’t mention this distinction.

As these three Ayahs which describe the distribution of shares of inheritance are based on pure mathematics, therefore I believe the correct interpretation of Kalalah will be that which satisfies both cases mathematically. One thing for sure is that ‘Kalalah’ case is the case of distribution of inheritance to the siblings. My understanding of differentiation of these two cases is as below:

First case i.e Ayat 4:12 describe a case in which a person specifically nominates his siblings to be given share in his inheritance while his children are also present. The basis of this assumption is the statement (in case a man or woman is inherited ‘Kalalah’) so it denotes not a normal case but a certain case in which siblings are nominated to be inherited by the deceased.

 Second case is described in Ayat 4:176 when siblings in any case get their share in inheritance. This is the case when there are no children of the deceased to share in inheritance.

4:12  إِن كَانَ رَجُلٌ يُورَثُ كَلَالَةً أَوِ امْرَأَةٌ وَلَهُ أَخٌ أَوْ أُخْتٌ فَلِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ ۚ فَإِن كَانُوا أَكْثَرَ مِن ذَٰلِكَ فَهُمْ شُرَكَاءُ فِي الثُّلُثِ

In case a man or woman is inherited by Kalalah, and for him is a brother or a sister, each one of the two gets a sixth; but if they are more than this, then all share in the third.

4:176  يَسْتَفْتُونَكَ قُلِ اللَّهُ يُفْتِيكُمْ فِي الْكَلَالَةِ ۚ إِنِ امْرُؤٌ هَلَكَ لَيْسَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ وَلَهُ أُخْتٌ فَلَهَا نِصْفُ مَا تَرَكَ ۚ وَهُوَ يَرِثُهَا إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهَا وَلَدٌ ۚ فَإِن كَانَتَا اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُمَا الثُّلُثَانِ مِمَّا تَرَكَ ۚ وَإِن كَانُوا إِخْوَةً رِّجَالًا وَنِسَاءً فَلِلذَّكَرِ مِثْلُ حَظِّ الْأُنثَيَيْنِ ۗ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ أَن تَضِلُّوا ۗ وَاللَّهُ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمٌ

They ask you (messenger) for a fatwa/advice. Say. Allah gives you fatwa/advice in Kalala. If a man dies for him there is no son, and  he has a sister then for her is half of what he left and he will inherit her if she does not have a son/child, and If they are two (females) they shall have two-thirds out of what he left and if there are brothers and sisters, then for a male is (a share) like share of two females. Thus Allah makes clear to you, lest you go astray, and Allah has knowledge of all things.

  • When there are no children then siblings inherit per ratio of males to females. (The brother becomes an inheritor only when there is no child  (وَهُوَ يَرِثُهَا إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهَا وَلَد))
  • Sister share is half of male’s share in case of 1 sister only. When only one sister, ratio of brother:sister :: 2:1
  • If there are two sisters then their share ratio is 2/3 of male’s share. (brother to sister:: 1.5:1)
  • If mix of brothers and sisters then share of a males is like of share of 2 sisters. Shares of 2 sisters in this case is defined as  2/3 of male’s share. (male to female: 1.5:1). Therefore this ratio will be maintained for mix of brothers and sisters.

As the case with sons and daughters Ayat 4:11, the ratio of sister and brother’s shares are described here, not total inheritance values. This is obvious from orders in Quran otherwise, if they were fixed inheritance values other than ratios, then husband, no kids and 2 sisters would not be able to be distributed as husband gets 1/2 and 2 sisters would get 2/3rd.

Ex 15: Mother, Father,  1 sister 1 brother, no child

4:11  فَإِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهُ وَلَدٌ وَوَرِثَهُ أَبَوَاهُ فَلِأُمِّهِ الثُّلُثُ ۚ فَإِن كَانَ لَهُ إِخْوَةٌ فَلِأُمِّهِ السُّدُسُ..

If no child, and both parents are the heirs, the mother has a third; if the deceased Left brothers (siblings) the mother has a sixth

And as per  4:176 (إِنِ امْرُؤٌ هَلَكَ لَيْسَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ وَلَهُ أُخْتٌ فَلَهَا نِصْفُ مَا تَرَكَ ۚ وَهُوَ يَرِثُهَا إِن لَّمْ يَكُن لَّهَا وَلَدٌ ۚ فَإِن كَانَتَا اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُمَا الثُّلُثَانِ مِمَّا تَرَكَ) in case there is no child and siblings are present then siblings will have distribution as per ratios of brother to sister of 2:1, except in case of 2 or more sisters, the ratio of brother to sister will be 1.5:1

Mother’s and Father’s share is 1/6th each.  Assume sister’s share x, then brother’s share is 2x

Mother +  Fathers  + Sister + Brother = 100

100/6 + 100/6 +  x + 2x = 100

3x = 100 – 200/6

Sister’s share x= 22.22
Brothers share 44.44
Mothers share 16.67
Father’s share 16.67

Ex 15a: Mother, Father,  2 sisters , no child

Mother’s and Father’s share is 1/6th each.

The 2 sister’s share of 2/3 ( فَإِن كَانَتَا اثْنَتَيْنِ فَلَهُمَا الثُّلُثَانِ مِمَّا تَرَكَ) is the ratio of brothers to sisters i.e if sister share is x, brother’s share will be 1.5x. As in this case there is no brother, we will assume each sister’s share is x. Then the equation can be written as follows:

Mother’s share + Father’s share + sister’s share + sister’s share = 100

100/6 + 100/6 + x + x = 100

2x = 100 – 200/6

x = 33.33, each sister’s share

Mother’s and father’s share = 16.66 each

Ex 16: Mother, 1 sister 1 brother, 2 daughters, 1 son (deceased nominated siblings in inheritance)

Since deceased nominates in this case siblings to be given share in inheritance, therefore they will be given shares in inheritance as per Ayat 4:12. Mothers share is 1/6th,  Each brother and sister share is 1/6 (إِن كَانَ رَجُلٌ يُورَثُ كَلَالَةً أَوِ امْرَأَةٌ وَلَهُ أَخٌ أَوْ أُخْتٌ فَلِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ ), assume x as daughter’s share, then son’s share is 2x:

Mother + Sister + Brother + Daughter + Son’s share = 100

100/6 + 100/6 + 100/6 + x + x + 2x = 100

4x = 100 – 300/6

4x = 50

x= 12.5

Sister’s share= 16.66

Brother’s share = 16.66

Mothers share= 16.66

Son’s share= 25

Each Daughter’s share = 12.5

Ex 17: Father, Mother, 2 brother, 2 sisters, 2 sons, 1 daughter

(deceased nominates siblings in inheritance)

Father and mother each has a share of 1/6. ( وَلِأَبَوَيْهِ لِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ مِمَّا تَرَكَ إِن كَانَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ)

2 brothers and 2 sisters share equally in 1/3 (وَإِن كَانَ رَجُلٌ يُورَثُ كَلَالَةً أَوِ امْرَأَةٌ وَلَهُ أَخٌ أَوْ أُخْتٌ فَلِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِّنْهُمَا السُّدُسُ ۚ فَإِن كَانُوا أَكْثَرَ مِن ذَٰلِكَ فَهُمْ شُرَكَاءُ فِي الثُّلُثِ)

Assume share of daughter as x, then share of son is 2x

Father + Mother + Brothers + Sisters + Daughter + Sons’ share = 100

100/6 + 100/6 + 100/3 + x + 2x + 2x = 100

5x = 100 – 100/6 – 100/6 – 100/3

5x = 33.33

x = 6.67= Daughter’s share

Each son’s share = 13.33

Father and Mother’s each share= 16.66

Total share of 2 brothers and sisters = 33.33, each of them gets 8.33

Ex 18: 3 daughters, 2 sons, father,  mothers, 3 wives, 3 sisters, 2 brothers (deceased does not nominate siblings in inheritance)

Assume each daughter’s share= x, then each son’s share will be 1.5x, father and mother each gets 1/6th, 3 wives share in 1/8th. Sisters and brothers don’t get share because of children’s presence and deceased has not nominated siblings in inheritance. Three daughters will be x +x+x = 3x, two sons will be 1.5x +1.5x = 3x

3x + 3x + 100/6 + 100/6 + 100/8 = 100

6x = 100 – 100/6 – 100/6 – 100/8

6x = 54.17

x = 9.03

Total
Each daughter’s share 9.03 27.08
Each son’s share 13.54 27.08
Fathers share 16.67 16.67
Mothers share 16.67 16.67
Each wife’s share 4.17 12.50

Ex 19: Mother, no children, 2 sisters no brother

Mother’s share is 1/6th,  sister’s share assume x, then two sisters’ share is 2x: ( 2/3rd for 2 sisters is the ratio, which will be applicable in case there are brother/brothers)

Mother + Sisters  = 100

100/6 + 2x = 100

2x = 100 – 100/6

2x = 83.33

x = 41.66 = share of each sister

Mother gets 16.66

Ex 20: Mother and father and no children, 2 sisters, 1 brother

Mother’s share is 1/6th, Father’s share 1/6 (per 4:11, Mother’s and father’s share were both 1/6 each when no children). For sister’s share assume x, then brothers share is 1.5x: ( 2/3rd for 2 sisters is the ratio, which will be applicable in case there is a mix of brothers and sisters)

Mother + Father + Sisters + brother’s share  = 100

100/6 + 100/6 + x +x + 1.5x + 1.5x = 100

5x= 66.66

x= 13.33, each sister gets 13.33, each brother gets 20, mother gets 16.66 and father’s share is 16.66.

The Orphans’ case:

Allah admonishes against eating orphans’ wealth in many places in Quran.  There are lot of Ayahs warning not to eat orphan’s wealth. It seems that some practices will always be going on in the society where people don’t give orphans their due share. Consider a case where a man dies, and leaves offspring. One of the his offspring may already have died leaving behind his own children. However, these children will not get any share in their grandfather’s inheritance as per traditional practice. A recommendation is to consider the already deceased son (who has orphans or widow) to be a share holder in grandfather’s inheritance. Then this share of the deceased son can be distributed further among his children and spouse according to Quranic injunctions.

4:2  وَآتُوا الْيَتَامَىٰ أَمْوَالَهُمْ ۖ وَلَا تَتَبَدَّلُوا الْخَبِيثَ بِالطَّيِّبِ ۖ وَلَا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَهُمْ إِلَىٰ أَمْوَالِكُمْ ۚ إِنَّهُ كَانَ حُوبًا كَبِيرًا

Give the orphans their wealth, do not substitute the bad things with (their) good ones; and do not eat their wealth by (by mixing it up) with your wealth; this is indeed a great sin.

4:10  إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَأْكُلُونَ أَمْوَالَ الْيَتَامَىٰ ظُلْمًا إِنَّمَا يَأْكُلُونَ فِي بُطُونِهِمْ نَارًا ۖ وَسَيَصْلَوْنَ سَعِيرًا

Those who unjustly eat up the property of orphans, eat up a fire into their bellies. They will enter a blazing fire!

89:19 وَتَأْكُلُونَ التُّرَاثَ أَكْلًا لَّمًّا  وَتُحِبُّونَ الْمَالَ حُبًّا جَمًّا

And you devour inheritance – all with greed and ye love wealth an intense love!

 

  • The Arabic word ‘Walad/( وَلَد) is translated as ‘Child’ in above post as the the Ayat 2:233 also implies the understanding of this word as child.

 

 

Qibla/Direction (of belief) and Kaaba

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Qibla means ‘Direction’. In religious context it means the direction of one’s faith. The word ‘Kaaba’ is understood to be the cube shaped House of God, situated in the city of Makkah.

The belief system of every individual can be thought of his spiritual house in which he feels protection. The spiritual house is initially built with inputs from one’s immediate environment and people in his surroundings, who instill the fundamentals of belief in him. The initial spiritual house a person builds and feels protection in it, is built without the knowledge and Sprit of Allah’s Ayahs.

29:41  مَثَلُ الَّذِينَ اتَّخَذُوا مِن دُونِ اللَّهِ أَوْلِيَاءَ كَمَثَلِ الْعَنكَبُوتِ اتَّخَذَتْ بَيْتًا ۖ وَإِنَّ أَوْهَنَ الْبُيُوتِ لَبَيْتُ الْعَنكَبُوتِ ۖ لَوْ كَانُوا يَعْلَمُونَ

The example of those who take protectors other than Allah is that of the spider, who builds a house; and truly the flimsiest of houses is that of the spider;- if they but knew.

The First house established for mankind by Allah, is Kaaba (cube) which is at Bakka/Makka. This house is for guidance of the whole World.  We will review in this post about, what guidance emanates from this place.

3:96 إِنَّ أَوَّلَ بَيْتٍ وُضِعَ لِلنَّاسِ لَلَّذِي بِبَكَّةَ مُبَارَكًا وَهُدًى لِّلْعَالَمِينَ

The first House appointed for mankind is that at Bakka (Makkah): Full of blessings and of guidance for all Worlds.

Bakka is an attribute of city of Makkah meaning ‘busy place’. The city is situated in a non agriculture valley of folds having hills of varying shades of blacks and greys. The house is made of black-stone and is in the midst of the sacred Mosque/Masjid ul Haram. The house is not made of bricks, the lining we see which appear as bricks are decorative stripes put on the black stone. Other attributes for this place are Bait Ul Ateeq/the ancient House (29:33الْبَيْتِ الْعَتِيقِ) and Umm ul Qura 6:92 ( أُمَّ الْقُرَىٰ) /Mother of dwellings.

5:97  جَعَلَ اللَّهُ الْكَعْبَةَ الْبَيْتَ الْحَرَامَ قِيَامًا لِّلنَّاسِ وَالشَّهْرَ الْحَرَامَ وَالْهَدْيَ وَالْقَلَائِدَ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ لِتَعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَنَّ اللَّهَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمٌ

Allah has made the Ka’bah, The Sacred House, a place of standing for people (in prayers), and The Sacred Month, and the offering, and the garlands/orbits, That you may know that Allah has knowledge of what is in the skies and in earth and that Allah is well-acquainted with all things.

Kabah, the sacred house, is recognizable with the standing of people in prayers (the system of salat is established in that place), and system of Hajj with association of month of Hajj and the offerings at Hajj. The people do tawaf/orbits around Kabah. These orbits appear as garlands around the Kabah when seen from above.  

9:28  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّمَا الْمُشْرِكُونَ نَجَسٌ فَلَا يَقْرَبُوا الْمَسْجِدَ الْحَرَامَ بَعْدَ عَامِهِمْ هَٰذَا ۚ وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ عَيْلَةً فَسَوْفَ يُغْنِيكُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ إِن شَاءَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

O you who believe! Truly the associaters are unclean; so let them not  approach the Sacred Mosque after this year. And if you fear poverty, soon Allah will enrich you, if He wills, out of His bounty, for Allah is All-knowing, All-wise.

Those who associate others in Allah are unclean spiritually. When some one who was previously involved in associations with Allah, realizes that and makes correction in belief then he after cleansing himself should make plans for visit to the sacred House. Without the spiritual cleansing, the guidance emanating from sacred House stated in Ayat 3:96 will not be achieved.

2:158  إِنَّ الصَّفَا وَالْمَرْوَةَ مِن شَعَائِرِ اللَّهِ ۖ فَمَنْ حَجَّ الْبَيْتَ أَوِ اعْتَمَرَ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِ أَن يَطَّوَّفَ بِهِمَا ۚ وَمَن تَطَوَّعَ خَيْرًا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ شَاكِرٌ عَلِيمٌ

Surely! Safa and Marwah are among the symbols of Allah, so if any who goes for Hajj or Umra of the House, It is no sin on him, that he goes round them and whoever voluntarily does good, so surely Allah is He who is thankful and knowing.

Safa and Marwa are two raised spots near the Sacred house, symbols for its recognition. One who goes for the visit of the sacred House, would go around them as part of the pilgrimage.

20:12  إِنِّي أَنَا رَبُّكَ فَاخْلَعْ نَعْلَيْكَ ۖ إِنَّكَ بِالْوَادِ الْمُقَدَّسِ طُوًى

(O’ Moosa) Surely I am your Lord so take off your shoes. Surely you are with the Holy Valley of folds.

All prophets went for pilgrimage of the sacred house. The Holy valley is called with the name of ‘Tuwa’ i.e a valley of folds in Quran. The practice of Prophet Moosa A.S to take off his shoes in the sacred valley, is followed by pilgrims when entering the House of the Lord.

23:15  وَجَعَلْنَا ابْنَ مَرْيَمَ وَأُمَّهُ آيَةً وَآوَيْنَاهُمَا إِلَىٰ رَبْوَةٍ ذَاتِ قَرَارٍ وَمَعِينٍ

And We made the son of Mary and his mother, a Sign. We gave them shelter on raised ground of tranquility and springs.

Prophet Essa A.S and his mother Mariam, also are associated with the Holy land. The signs mentioned will always be there, e.g the well of Zamzam for spring of water and the raised spots of Safwa and Marwa.

The well/spring of Zamzam is a sign associated with the Kaaba the House of the Lord. This well supplies water and quenches thirst of millions of pilgrims and has been around for thousands of years without drying up. The well retains its water level in matter of minutes. (see picture in notes below)

6:75-79 وَكَذَٰلِكَ نُرِي إِبْرَاهِيمَ مَلَكُوتَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَلِيَكُونَ مِنَ الْمُوقِنِينَ  فَلَمَّا جَنَّ عَلَيْهِ اللَّيْلُ رَأَىٰ كَوْكَبًا ۖ قَالَ هَٰذَا رَبِّي ۖ فَلَمَّا أَفَلَ قَالَ لَا أُحِبُّ الْآفِلِينَ  فَلَمَّا رَأَى الْقَمَرَ بَازِغًا قَالَ هَٰذَا رَبِّي ۖ فَلَمَّا أَفَلَ قَالَ لَئِن لَّمْ يَهْدِنِي رَبِّي لَأَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الضَّالِّينَ   فَلَمَّا رَأَى الشَّمْسَ بَازِغَةً قَالَ هَٰذَا رَبِّي هَٰذَا أَكْبَرُ ۖ فَلَمَّا أَفَلَتْ قَالَ يَا قَوْمِ إِنِّي بَرِيءٌ مِّمَّا تُشْرِكُونَ  إِنِّي وَجَّهْتُ وَجْهِيَ لِلَّذِي فَطَرَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضَ حَنِيفًا ۖ وَمَا أَنَا مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ

And likewise, We showed Ibraheem A.S the kingdom of the skies and the earth that he might be of those having belief. When the night covered him over, he saw a planet: he said, “This is my Lord.” But when it set, he said: “I love not those that set. When he saw the moon rising he said: “This is my Lord.” But when the moon set, he said: “If my Lord does not guide me, I shall surely be among those who go astray. When he saw the sun rising he said: “This is my Lord; this is greater.” But when the sun set, he said: O my people! I am indeed free from your (guilt) of associating partners with Allah.

In terms of Hujjat/logical arguments to his people, Ibrahim A.S explained with the help of examples of exceeding bigger things which may appear to people as of divine importance, that only Allah is to be focused upon, no matter how bright and shining and invincible any object or personality seems to them.

6:79  إِنِّي وَجَّهْتُ وَجْهِيَ لِلَّذِي فَطَرَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضَ حَنِيفًا ۖ وَمَا أَنَا مِنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ

I have set myself firmly and truly, to Him Who originated the skies and the earth, and I am not from those who associate partners with Allah.

After disassociating oneself from previous psychological idols held in high esteem, one is to focus on the Lord, who created the skies and earth. This is the first step in setting the true direction of belief.

In terms of search for the true direction of belief, the order is to set our direction of belief to the Sacred mosque. Which means to adopt the system of the Sacred mosque and not to oppose the system established there.

2:144  قَدْ نَرَىٰ تَقَلُّبَ وَجْهِكَ فِي السَّمَاءِ ۖ فَلَنُوَلِّيَنَّكَ قِبْلَةً تَرْضَاهَا ۚ فَوَلِّ وَجْهَكَ شَطْرَ الْمَسْجِدِ الْحَرَامِ ۚ وَحَيْثُ مَا كُنتُمْ فَوَلُّوا وُجُوهَكُمْ شَطْرَهُ ۗ وَإِنَّ الَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْكِتَابَ لَيَعْلَمُونَ أَنَّهُ الْحَقُّ مِن رَّبِّهِمْ ۗ وَمَا اللَّهُ بِغَافِلٍ عَمَّا يَعْمَلُونَ

Without doubt, We see the movements of your face in the sky, so, We will revert you to a Qiblah/direction (of faith) that shall please you. So revert yourself to the intersection/portion of the Sacred Mosque: and from wherever you come, revert yourselves to its intersection/portion. Surely, those who are given the Book definitely know that this is the truth from their Lord. and Allah is not unaware of what they are doing.

The Masjid Al Haram has a established system of Salat and Tawaf. Which ever sect you belong to, leave sectarian practice and turn your self towards the ‘Salat’ portion of Masjid Al Haram. Facing the sacred mosque is symbolically stating that you adhere to the system of Salat established in that Mosque.

Prophet Ibrahim was shown the place of the Sacred House and he was entrusted to establish the system of Salat and Tawaf in the house. 

22:26  وَإِذْ بَوَّأْنَا لِإِبْرَاهِيمَ مَكَانَ الْبَيْتِ أَن لَّا تُشْرِكْ بِي شَيْئًا وَطَهِّرْ بَيْتِيَ لِلطَّائِفِينَ وَالْقَائِمِينَ وَالرُّكَّعِ السُّجُودِ

And when We pointed out the place of the House to Ibraheem “associate not anything with Me; and purify My house for those who go around, and who stand and bow, prostrate.”

In the sunnat/practice of Prophet Ibraheem A.S, we are to purify the House of the Lord of evil associations in the minds of people. There are stories in people’s mind that at some point in time the House of the Lord was not pure. That there were physical idols placed inside the House and people used to go around the House, naked.  All these notions are false made out of distorted history. The House of the Lord must always been clean and a place of getting guidance for the Salat and Hajj for the mankind from day one, as it is the first House established for mankind for guidance.  

2:125  وَإِذْ جَعَلْنَا الْبَيْتَ مَثَابَةً لِّلنَّاسِ وَأَمْنًا وَاتَّخِذُوا مِن مَّقَامِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ مُصَلًّى ۖ وَعَهِدْنَا إِلَىٰ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَإِسْمَاعِيلَ أَن طَهِّرَا بَيْتِيَ لِلطَّائِفِينَ وَالْعَاكِفِينَ وَالرُّكَّعِ السُّجُودِ

And when We made the house a place of reward and safety for people, and you take from the standing position of Ibraheem, the Musalla / prayer performed. And We covenanted with Ibraheem and Ismaeel that both of you purify My house for those who go around and those who intent upon (do Aetikaf) and those who bow and prostate.

Please note the system of Masjid Haram:
1. Not to associate anyone in partnership with Allah
2. Tawaf of the House
3. Salat/Namaz

7:29  قُلْ أَمَرَ رَبِّي بِالْقِسْطِ ۖ وَأَقِيمُوا وُجُوهَكُمْ عِندَ كُلِّ مَسْجِدٍ وَادْعُوهُ مُخْلِصِينَ لَهُ الدِّينَ ۚ كَمَا بَدَأَكُمْ تَعُودُونَ

Say; “My lord has ordered with justice; and you establish your faces/selves near every mosque and call Him, making your judgment pure for Him. As He originated you, so you will return”.

All mosques are shatar/part(شَطْرَ) of the Masjidul-Haram/Sacred Mosque by virtue of facing towards it. You may visit any mosque and pray there in as per system of Salat established in the Sacred Mosque. If people argue with you over your salat then your argument should be that you have taken the system of salat on the basis of Ayahs of Quran (See previous post https://topicsfromquran.com/2017/03/21/salat-procedure/ )

2:127  وَإِذْ يَرْفَعُ إِبْرَاهِيمُ الْقَوَاعِدَ مِنَ الْبَيْتِ وَإِسْمَاعِيلُ رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّا ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ

And when Ibraheem and Isma’il raised  from the House, Al-Qawaid/the Rules, “Our Lord! Accept from us for you are All hearing, All knowing.”

What are the rules that were raised by Ibrahim and Ismail from the House of Allah; the rules of Salat/Prayers and Tawaf/Hajj.

14:37  رَّبَّنَا إِنِّي أَسْكَنتُ مِن ذُرِّيَّتِي بِوَادٍ غَيْرِ ذِي زَرْعٍ عِندَ بَيْتِكَ الْمُحَرَّمِ رَبَّنَا لِيُقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ فَاجْعَلْ أَفْئِدَةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ تَهْوِي إِلَيْهِمْ وَارْزُقْهُم مِّنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَشْكُرُونَ

“O’ our Lord surely I have settled from my offspring within the valley without cultivation near your Sacred House, O’ Our Lord, so that they establish As-Salat/The prayer, so make the hearts of people loving towards them and provide them with fruits so that they will be thankful.”

Ibrahim A.S, who was made Imam and entrusted to keep the House of Allah purified, made some of his offsprings (spritual) station there and prayed to Allah for ensuring the sanctity of establishment of salat at that place. After the system of Salat is established by people there, they will be rewarded with fruits imported from all over the world in that non-agricultural valley.

3:97  فِيهِ آيَاتٌ بَيِّنَاتٌ مَّقَامُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ۖ وَمَن دَخَلَهُ كَانَ آمِنًا ۗ وَلِلَّهِ عَلَى النَّاسِ حِجُّ الْبَيْتِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ إِلَيْهِ سَبِيلًا ۚ وَمَن كَفَرَ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَنِيٌّ عَنِ الْعَالَمِينَ

In it are clear ayats / signs, the standing position of Ibraheem; whoever enters it attains security. And for Allah is Pilgrimage of the house on people, those who can afford the journey, but if anyone denies, surely Allah is not in need of any in the worlds.

When a person disassociate with alternative religious teachings, leave the sectarian belief system, adopts the guidance of Allah and enters the House of the Lord physically and spiritually, he surely enters into peace and security. He leaves behind him sectarian hatred and enmity.

When you exit from your previous beliefs i.e the beliefs held before the clarity of Ayahs of Allah, you should redirect your self towards the Masjid Haram and become part of it, so that people cannot argue with your way of salat/prayers.

2:150  وَمِنْ حَيْثُ خَرَجْتَ فَوَلِّ وَجْهَكَ شَطْرَ الْمَسْجِدِ الْحَرَامِ ۚ وَحَيْثُ مَا كُنتُمْ فَوَلُّوا وُجُوهَكُمْ شَطْرَهُ لِئَلَّا يَكُونَ لِلنَّاسِ عَلَيْكُمْ حُجَّةٌ إِلَّا الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُوا مِنْهُمْ فَلَا تَخْشَوْهُمْ وَاخْشَوْنِي وَلِأُتِمَّ نِعْمَتِي عَلَيْكُمْ وَلَعَلَّكُمْ تَهْتَدُونَ

And from wherever you come out, so revert yourself to the intersection / portion of the Sacred Mosque  and wherever you are, revert yourselves to its intersection/portion that there would be no ground of dispute over you from the people except those of them that are bent on wickedness, so fear them not but fear Me and that I may complete My favors on you and that you may be guided.

The people who insist that the system of Salat and Tawaf in the Masjid ul Haram/Sacred Mosque is not right, and instead their system is right, should see below Ayahs:

8:34-5  وَمَا لَهُمْ أَلَّا يُعَذِّبَهُمُ اللَّهُ وَهُمْ يَصُدُّونَ عَنِ الْمَسْجِدِ الْحَرَامِ وَمَا كَانُوا أَوْلِيَاءَهُ ۚ إِنْ أَوْلِيَاؤُهُ إِلَّا الْمُتَّقُونَ وَلَٰكِنَّ أَكْثَرَهُمْ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ  وَمَا كَانَ صَلَاتُهُمْ عِندَ الْبَيْتِ إِلَّا مُكَاءً وَتَصْدِيَةً ۚ فَذُوقُوا الْعَذَابَ بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَكْفُرُونَ

But what plea they have, that Allah should not punish them when they are in opposition about the Sacred Mosque and they are not its protectors (Walis). No one can be its protectors except those who take guard, but most of them do not understand. Their Salat/prayer near the House is nothing but whistling and clapping of hands, “Taste the penalty because you rejected”.

If you do not follow the system of salat which is established at the Holy House, it is just like whistling and clapping in the eyes of Allah

1:6  اهْدِنَا الصِّرَاطَ الْمُسْتَقِيمَ

Guide us to the straight path.

Most people believe that by the grace of  God, they are born on the straight path, while Allah has made it incumbent to recite this Ayat in each Raka of Salat five times a day to supplicate to Allah to guide them to the straight path. Truly, guidance is only from Allah and He bestows it to whomever He wills and can only be attained by following the Spirit of Ayahs of Allah.

2:142  سَيَقُولُ السُّفَهَاءُ مِنَ النَّاسِ مَا وَلَّاهُمْ عَن قِبْلَتِهِمُ الَّتِي كَانُوا عَلَيْهَا ۚ قُل لِّلَّهِ الْمَشْرِقُ وَالْمَغْرِبُ ۚ يَهْدِي مَن يَشَاءُ إِلَىٰ صِرَاطٍ مُّسْتَقِيمٍ

The fools among the people will say: ” What has reverted them from their Qiblah/direction (of faith) on which they were?” Say: for Allah is East and West. He guides whom He wills to a straight path.

When one attains the Sprit of Ayahs of Allah, he realizes that he needs to change his direction of belief as per Ayahs of Allah and moves away from the sectarian teaching. At that time the silly people of his earlier sect would object and ask what made him change his direction of faith.

2:143  وَكَذَٰلِكَ جَعَلْنَاكُمْ أُمَّةً وَسَطًا لِّتَكُونُوا شُهَدَاءَ عَلَى النَّاسِ وَيَكُونَ الرَّسُولُ عَلَيْكُمْ شَهِيدًا ۗ وَمَا جَعَلْنَا الْقِبْلَةَ الَّتِي كُنتَ عَلَيْهَا إِلَّا لِنَعْلَمَ مَن يَتَّبِعُ الرَّسُولَ مِمَّن يَنقَلِبُ عَلَىٰ عَقِبَيْهِ ۚ وَإِن كَانَتْ لَكَبِيرَةً إِلَّا عَلَى الَّذِينَ هَدَى اللَّهُ ۗ وَمَا كَانَ اللَّهُ لِيُضِيعَ إِيمَانَكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ بِالنَّاسِ لَرَءُوفٌ رَّحِيمٌ

Likewise, We made you a balanced nation, that you be a witnesses over people, and the messenger be a witness over yourselves; and We did not make the Qiblah/direction (of faith) you were on it before,  except that We know those who followed the messenger from those who would turn over their heels. Surely, it is a great thing, except, for those whom Allah guides and never would Allah make your belief be of no effect. Surely, Allah is to people full of Kindness, Most Merciful.

Indeed changing ones direction of belief is a great burdensome thing to do by any one. He or she has to face a lot of opposition from community and near and dear ones. This can only be achived with the help and guidance of Allah and Allah does not let go the belief of people to wastage.

We know that the first house established for the mankind is in Bakka/Makkah (3:96). However, people think of it as the second Qibla historically. The first Qibla is deemed to be another mosque which cannot be recognized with peace and Barakat/blessings. The characteristics of this alternative mosque are exposed in below Ayahs.

9:107 وَالَّذِينَ اتَّخَذُوا مَسْجِدًا ضِرَارًا وَكُفْرًا وَتَفْرِيقًا بَيْنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَإِرْصَادًا لِّمَنْ حَارَبَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ مِن قَبْلُ ۚ وَلَيَحْلِفُنَّ إِنْ أَرَدْنَا إِلَّا الْحُسْنَىٰ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَشْهَدُ إِنَّهُمْ لَكَاذِبُونَ

And these (hypocrites) who have taken a mosque as an ambush (i.e. hidden place for sudden attack), for those who have been waging war against Allah and His messenger from before, to harm and to reject (i.e. Islam / Peace) and to make divisions between the believers and definitely they swear that our intention is nothing except goodness. And Allah testifies that surely they are definite liars.

The hypocrites have taken one Mosque for harm and rejection and division among believers and for waging gorilla war against the People who had been fighting with Allah from before. So you can recognize which mosque is this one, where there is a dispute, between two groups. Gorilla type of war is going on  there and Islam is being harmed. And there can never be peace at that place till the day of Judgment 5:64.

9:108 لَا تَقُمْ فِيهِ أَبَدًا ۚ لَّمَسْجِدٌ أُسِّسَ عَلَى التَّقْوَىٰ مِنْ أَوَّلِ يَوْمٍ أَحَقُّ أَن تَقُومَ فِيهِ ۚ فِيهِ رِجَالٌ يُحِبُّونَ أَن يَتَطَهَّرُوا ۚ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُطَّهِّرِينَ

You never ever stand in it, definitely that mosque (i.e. Masjid-e-Haram / Sacred mosque) whose basis from the first day is on Taqwa/taking guard, it is more right that you stand in it. In it are men who love to purify themselves. And Allah loves those who purify themselves.

The order is that believers never to take a stand for that mosque which symbolizes harm, gorilla war and terrorism. Believers are to take stand for the Sacred Mosque, Masjid ul Haram which is established on Truth since day one.

2:145  وَلَئِنْ أَتَيْتَ الَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْكِتَابَ بِكُلِّ آيَةٍ مَّا تَبِعُوا قِبْلَتَكَ ۚ وَمَا أَنتَ بِتَابِعٍ قِبْلَتَهُمْ ۚ وَمَا بَعْضُهُم بِتَابِعٍ قِبْلَةَ بَعْضٍ ۚ وَلَئِنِ اتَّبَعْتَ أَهْوَاءَهُم مِّن بَعْدِ مَا جَاءَكَ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ ۙ إِنَّكَ إِذًا لَّمِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ

And even if you were to bring to those who are given the Book all the signs (Ayahs), they would not follow your Qiblah (direction), nor you are going to follow their Qiblah nor will they follow each other’s Qiblah. If you were to follow their desires after the knowledge has come to you, surely, you would be among the wrong doers.

14:35-36  وَإِذْ قَالَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ رَبِّ اجْعَلْ هَٰذَا الْبَلَدَ آمِنًا وَاجْنُبْنِي وَبَنِيَّ أَن نَّعْبُدَ الْأَصْنَامَ  رَبِّ إِنَّهُنَّ أَضْلَلْنَ كَثِيرًا مِّنَ النَّاسِ ۖ فَمَن تَبِعَنِي فَإِنَّهُ مِنِّي ۖ وَمَنْ عَصَانِي فَإِنَّكَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

And when Ibraheem said, O’ my Lord! Make this city of peace and security and keep me and my sons strangers from serving Asnam (idols with love). O my Lord! Surely they have led astray many among people, so who follows me is of me, and he who disobeys me, so you are surely Oft-Forgiving,Most Merciful.

Asnam are the idols with association of love. Many sectarians fall prey to  psychological idols whose love is instilled in them by their environment. Prophet Ibraheem A.S prays to Allah to make him and his sons strangers to the Asnams as a majority of mankind has been lead to delusion.

27:91  إِنَّمَا أُمِرْتُ أَنْ أَعْبُدَ رَبَّ هَٰذِهِ الْبَلْدَةِ الَّذِي حَرَّمَهَا وَلَهُ كُلُّ شَيْءٍ ۖ وَأُمِرْتُ أَنْ أَكُونَ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ

For me, I have been commanded to serve the Lord of this City, Who has made it sacred, and for Him are all things: and I am commanded to be of those who are Muslims/submitters.

27:92  وَأَنْ أَتْلُوَ الْقُرْآنَ ۖ فَمَنِ اهْتَدَىٰ فَإِنَّمَا يَهْتَدِي لِنَفْسِهِ ۖ وَمَن ضَلَّ فَقُلْ إِنَّمَا أَنَا مِنَ الْمُنذِرِينَ

And that I  recite the Quran, and if any one accept guidance, he does it for the good of his own self, and if anyone goes astray, say “I am only a warner”.

Notes:

Link to the lecture of Qibla (direction of belief) by scholar Sholar Mohammad Shaikh:

Kabah / Cube And Qibla / Direction (2009)

https://www.iipccanada.com/category/urdu-video-lectures/emaan-ki-simt/

 

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Saum/Fast

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Muslims perform fasting during the Holy month of Ramadan. In fasting they refrain from normally lawful eating, drinking and sexual activity from dawn to dusk. The main purpose of fasting is to increase consciousness of Allah in oneself. During fasting we abstain from halal and lawful things knowing that we are being watched by Allah although no one else is watching, so our consciousness of Allah increases. The purpose of training of Saum/fast is to increase our consciousness of Allah. Similar is the concept of Akhira or accountability. It a reaffirmation of the fact to be aware that Allah watches us when one one else does. With this training we pay heed to accountability. Many a people if they know that they would get away with a bad act, they would do so forgetting at the moment that we cannot get away with any evil act and Allah will make us accountable for every single thing we did in this life. The training of Saum/fast is related to this concept in that we develop the feeling of being conscious of Allah and this consciousness of Allah in our nafs keeps us away from doing evil things. Once the consciousness of Allah becomes part of our nafs, it should extend beyond the month of Ramadan.

2:185  شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِي أُنزِلَ فِيهِ الْقُرْآنُ هُدًى لِّلنَّاسِ وَبَيِّنَاتٍ مِّنَ الْهُدَىٰ وَالْفُرْقَانِ ۚ فَمَن شَهِدَ مِنكُمُ الشَّهْرَ فَلْيَصُمْهُ ۖ وَمَن كَانَ مَرِيضًا أَوْ عَلَىٰ سَفَرٍ فَعِدَّةٌ مِّنْ أَيَّامٍ أُخَرَ ۗ يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ بِكُمُ الْيُسْرَ وَلَا يُرِيدُ بِكُمُ الْعُسْرَ وَلِتُكْمِلُوا الْعِدَّةَ وَلِتُكَبِّرُوا اللَّهَ عَلَىٰ مَا هَدَاكُمْ وَلَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ

Ramadan is the month in which Al-Quran/The Reading was sent down, a guidance for mankind, and clarification from the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong), so whosoever is a witness amongst you of that month, then he should fast in it, but if any one is ill, or travelling, then the count (should be made up) in later days. Allah intends facility for you; He does not intend to put you to hardship. So that you complete the prescribed period (of fasting), and to glorify Him in that He has guided you; and you be grateful to Him.

In the month of Ramadan our defense mechanism increases against doing evil by refraining from even lawful halal things during the day. People usually refrain themselves from doing bad and evil things in Ramadan, which they may do in other months. If we can refrain our selves in doing evil during this one month, we may try to train ourselves to refrain from doing evil for the rest of the year.

The fasting as other orders of Allah, has always been incumbent upon believers in all times.

2:183  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الصِّيَامُ كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

O ye who believe! Fasting is written over you as it was written over those before you, that you may take guard,-

In case of sickness or travel you should not fast but keep count of these days to be completed later. It is not allowed to do fasting in sickness which will worsen because of keeping fast. Similarly while travelling significant distances which may involve time difference between destinations, keeping fast is not allowed.

In case you are in-capacitated to fast due to physical conditions or being at a place where it is difficult to distinguish between days and nights, then you can do Fidya/recompense of Saum i.e arrange to feed a poor person in lieu of keeping fast.

2:184  أَيَّامًا مَّعْدُودَاتٍ ۚ فَمَن كَانَ مِنكُم مَّرِيضًا أَوْ عَلَىٰ سَفَرٍ فَعِدَّةٌ مِّنْ أَيَّامٍ أُخَرَ ۚ وَعَلَى الَّذِينَ يُطِيقُونَهُ فِدْيَةٌ طَعَامُ مِسْكِينٍ ۖ فَمَن تَطَوَّعَ خَيْرًا فَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّهُ ۚ وَأَن تَصُومُوا خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۖ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ

(Fasting) for a counted number of days; but if any of you is ill, or on a journey, the prescribed number (should be completed) from days later. For those who can do it (With hardship), is a ransom, the feeding of one that is indigent. But he that will give more, of his own free will,- it is better for him. And it is better for you that you fast, if you only knew.

In Ramadan people try to  indulge mostly in worship of the Lord and in doing so some, avoid contact with their wives during the Ramadan nights, sometimes sacrificing their desires. Allah advises that you need not be dishonest to your nafs/physche and seek your woman during the Ramadan nights as this is lawful.

However, contact with women during Aaitekaf/devotion in the mosques is not allowed.  

2:187  أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ

It is lawful for you to be intimate with your women in the night of fasts, they are a covering for you and you are covering for them. Allah knows that you used to be dishonest with your nafs/psyche, so He returns over you and pardoned you about it. So now be in contact with them and seek what Allah has written for you,

 And eat and drink until from dawn the white thread clarifies for you from the black thread then complete the fast towards the night and you do not accompany them when you are devoted/Aakif in the mosques. These are the boundaries of Allah so you do not go near them. Likewise Allah clarifies His Ayas / signs for people so that they may take guard.

In keeping Saum/fast We can eat and drink in the night as long as we don’t see a slight indication of morning light getting distinguished from the night’s darkness. Then the prohibition of Saum will last during the day till dusk when again the day changes into night; going towards the night (i.e not actual night)

Correction with Saum/Fasting:

If we recognize ourselves  deviating from the Right, then we can apply the method given in below Ayat for correction:

5:89  لَا يُؤَاخِذُكُمُ اللَّهُ بِاللَّغْوِ فِي أَيْمَانِكُمْ وَلَٰكِن يُؤَاخِذُكُم بِمَا عَقَّدتُّمُ الْأَيْمَانَ ۖ فَكَفَّارَتُهُ إِطْعَامُ عَشَرَةِ مَسَاكِينَ مِنْ أَوْسَطِ مَا تُطْعِمُونَ أَهْلِيكُمْ أَوْ كِسْوَتُهُمْ أَوْ تَحْرِيرُ رَقَبَةٍ ۖ فَمَن لَّمْ يَجِدْ فَصِيَامُ ثَلَاثَةِ أَيَّامٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ كَفَّارَةُ أَيْمَانِكُمْ إِذَا حَلَفْتُمْ ۚ وَاحْفَظُوا أَيْمَانَكُمْ ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ

Allah does not call you to account with futile talk in your oaths, but He calls you to account with what you deliberate in your oaths/right. Thus it’s expiation is to feed ten indigent persons, the average of the food you feed your families; or clothe them; or free a neck. If any does not find such then fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths/right you have sworn. Guard your oaths/right. This way Allah make clear to you His Ayahs/signs, that you may be grateful.

For example a person recognizes that lying is wrong conduct and is not ‘Right’ but he thinks that he is forced to do so because of circumstances beyond his control. Then he can start doing correction by paying an expiation every time he finds himself deviating from right i.e either feed ten poor, or clothe them or free a neck from debt or if he is not able to afford these then fast for three days. After paying the expiation for a few times, He should be much better able to control himself in deviating from the Right, Insha’Allah.

For bigger matters e.g Zihar or accidentally killing a person unintentionally the prescription is for two months consecutive fasting in order to mitigate the profound effects on ones psychology 4:92, 58:4.

Saum of Speech

19:26 فَكُلِي وَاشْرَبِي وَقَرِّي عَيْنًا ۖ فَإِمَّا تَرَيِنَّ مِنَ الْبَشَرِ أَحَدًا فَقُولِي إِنِّي نَذَرْتُ لِلرَّحْمَٰنِ صَوْمًا فَلَنْ أُكَلِّمَ الْيَوْمَ إِنسِيًّا

(O Maryam) “So eat and drink and cool (your) eye. And if you see any man, say, ‘I have vowed a fast to (Allah) Most Gracious, and this day I will not  enter into talk with any human”

A less commonly known Saum/fast is of speaking to people. When one has the initial encounter with the Spirit of Allah’s Ayat/Ayahs, then he/she is not to speak about them immediately to any one, unless one attains clarity about the Ayahs and practically implement them in one’s life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Parent and children relationship guidelines

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Parents raise their kids in the best possible way they can manage given the resources they have. They transfer their values to their children as well, the values which were instilled in them by their own parents, their society and their culture. They like to transfer the same to their kids. They want their children to follow things which they believe are right and good. Also, there are certain things which the parents themselves are not doing, however, they want their children to do so. They keep on instructing their kids about them. The children in this case are able to see the difference in the words and actions of their parents. When the kids grow up they point out to their parents these differences and some have altercations with their parents as well.

Al-Quran’s guide lines in dealing with the parents is that in whatever means parents were able to raise the kids, kids are not to blame parents for their shortcomings. In matters of guidance parents are not responsible for their children’s actions and vice versa. We will see the Ayahs of Quran for these guidelines as below:

Parents:

Parents are instructed not to forget Allah and His orders while raising kids. Parents should not be overwhelmed in the love of their offspring to the extent as to ignore the orders of Allah in this regard.

63:9 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُلْهِكُمْ أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَلَا أَوْلَادُكُمْ عَن ذِكْرِ اللَّهِ ۚ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ

O you people who believe! Let not your wealth nor your offspring divert you from the remembrance of Allah. If any does that, they are from the losers.  

If we are blessed with wealth and offspring in the world, it is not because we have some special favors bestowed on us by the Lord. The only thing which can bring us closer to our Lord in stature, is our belief in Him and the corrections we strive to do  in our actions.

34:37  وَمَا أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَلَا أَوْلَادُكُم بِالَّتِي تُقَرِّبُكُمْ عِندَنَا زُلْفَىٰ إِلَّا مَنْ آمَنَ وَعَمِلَ صَالِحًا فَأُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمْ جَزَاءُ الضِّعْفِ بِمَا عَمِلُوا وَهُمْ فِي الْغُرُفَاتِ آمِنُونَ

It is not your wealth nor your offspring that will bring you nearer to Us: but only those who believe and work righteousness; these are the ones for whom there is double reward for their deeds, and they will be  in peace in rooms/chambers.

The Satan catches us in our weak moments i.e when we are in an emotionally vulnerable condition. Most of us have great emotional attachment with our children, Ayat 17:64  warns us that this love would be used by Satan in deluding from the path of the Lord ( وَشَارِكْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَوْلَادِ وَعِدْهُمْ ۚ وَمَا يَعِدُهُمُ الشَّيْطَانُ إِلَّا غُرُورًا ). Therefore we should not close our eyes to Allah’s commands while doing justice and giving truthful witness while dealing with our children and other people (4:135).

8:28  وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّمَا أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَأَوْلَادُكُمْ فِتْنَةٌ وَأَنَّ اللَّهَ عِندَهُ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ

And know that your wealth and your children are but a temptation and with Allah is a great reward.

Allah says that the majority of the people in world are not the thankful ones and not on the right path. The majority of these people try to make sure that their kids follow the same ideology and belief system which they are following thus contributing to the vicious cycle of deviation from the right path. Imposing one’s ideology in the guise of Din/judgment on one’s children is tantamount to the psychological killing of the children and destroying them.

6:137 وَكَذَٰلِكَ زَيَّنَ لِكَثِيرٍ مِّنَ الْمُشْرِكِينَ قَتْلَ أَوْلَادِهِمْ شُرَكَاؤُهُمْ لِيُرْدُوهُمْ وَلِيَلْبِسُوا عَلَيْهِمْ دِينَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ مَا فَعَلُوهُ ۖ فَذَرْهُمْ وَمَا يَفْتَرُونَ

Likewise for many of the associtors, their  partners (in Allah, who give orders besides Allah’s orders) have made alluring, the killing of their children, to destroy them and to clothe this order with Din/judgment. If Allah had willed they would have not done so; so leave them alone and their inventions.

There is a physical aspect also of this killing. The mushrikeen/associators are those who follow Allah’s orders and also the orders of others (6:137). The partners/Shuraka are those who make sharia for them (42:21). These Shuraka’s have ordered them to wage war and do violence on earth and they have termed these orders as Din/Judgment and make it appear as Holy war and made dying for this cause as alluring to people.

2:133  أَمْ كُنتُمْ شُهَدَاءَ إِذْ حَضَرَ يَعْقُوبَ الْمَوْتُ إِذْ قَالَ لِبَنِيهِ مَا تَعْبُدُونَ مِن بَعْدِي قَالُوا نَعْبُدُ إِلَٰهَكَ وَإِلَٰهَ آبَائِكَ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَإِسْمَاعِيلَ وَإِسْحَاقَ إِلَٰهًا وَاحِدًا وَنَحْنُ لَهُ مُسْلِمُونَ

Were you witness when death appeared before Yaqoob/Jacob? Behold, he said to his sons. “What will you serve after me?” They said. “We shall serve your God and the God of your fathers, of Ibraheem, Isma’il and Ishaq,- the one (True) God. To Him we are muslim/submitters.”

The injunction of a parent to his offspring is to serve one God, the same God to all the prophets. This God has sent a Book to be followed by mankind. So the injunction is to follow that one God and not the sectarian teachings.

Ayat 3:14 informs us that it is in built in human beings the love of sons and women, and worldly possessions (زُيِّنَ لِلنَّاسِ حُبُّ الشَّهَوَاتِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ وَالْبَنِينَ ).

16:58-59  وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُم بِالْأُنثَىٰ ظَلَّ وَجْهُهُ مُسْوَدًّا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ  يَتَوَارَىٰ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ مِن سُوءِ مَا بُشِّرَ بِهِ ۚ أَيُمْسِكُهُ عَلَىٰ هُونٍ أَمْ يَدُسُّهُ فِي التُّرَابِ ۗ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يَحْكُمُونَ

When news is brought to one of them, of a female (child), his face darkens, and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people, because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain it on (suffering and) contempt, or bury it in the dust? Ah! what an evil (choice) they decide on?

Although the sons are made to look good in the eyes of the people, the bad attitude of people in the event of birth of a daughter is a bad judgment on their part, as per above Ayat.

81:8-9 وَإِذَا الْمَوْءُودَةُ سُئِلَتْ بِأَيِّ ذَنبٍ قُتِلَتْ

When the female (infant), is questioned, for what crime she was killed?

In some countries if people know the sex of the fetus they strive to abort it in case of a female child. There definitely will be accountability for that heinous crime as it is killing of a human life.

17:31  وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ خَشْيَةَ إِمْلَاقٍ ۖ نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُهُمْ وَإِيَّاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ قَتْلَهُمْ كَانَ خِطْئًا كَبِيرًا

Do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We (Allah) provides sustenance to them as well as for you. Verily the killing of them is a great sin.

Aborting a new life/fetus for the fear of worldly loss or poverty, is a great sin. Sustenance/Rizq of all living beings is on Allah.

64:14  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ ۚ وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

O’ you people who believe, surely amongst your pairs / wives and your children,  are enemies for you, so be cautious of them and if you pardon and shake hands and forgive them surely Allah is all forgiving, all merciful.

In some cases the offspring of a man can become enemy (in belief). This enmity mentioned in Quran is in matters of belief only, see Ayat 60:4 (قَدْ كَانَتْ لَكُمْ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ فِي إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَالَّذِينَ مَعَهُ إِذْ قَالُوا لِقَوْمِهِمْ إِنَّا بُرَآءُ مِنكُمْ وَمِمَّا تَعْبُدُونَ مِن دُونِ اللَّهِ كَفَرْنَا بِكُمْ وَبَدَا بَيْنَنَا وَبَيْنَكُمُ الْعَدَاوَةُ وَالْبَغْضَاءُ أَبَدًا حَتَّىٰ تُؤْمِنُوا بِاللَّهِ وَحْدَهُ  ). In case this happens to a believing person, the four steps mentioned in this Ayat to be followed i.e to be cautious with them, to forgive, to shake hands and bear with them. The original enemy of man is the Satan. The term enemy is used here as Satan can harm a man by overpowering a member of his family,  and since every one is emotionally attached to the family, therefore the believer may be liable to fall in the emotionally vulnerable trap of comprising on his belief in certain aspects related to family.

The practice of the wise man Luqman, is stated in Quran stating what advice one should impart on one’s offspring. The important points are given below:

31:17-9 يَا بُنَيَّ أَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَانْهَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَاصْبِرْ عَلَىٰ مَا أَصَابَكَ ۖ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ مِنْ عَزْمِ الْأُمُورِ  وَلَا تُصَعِّرْ خَدَّكَ لِلنَّاسِ وَلَا تَمْشِ فِي الْأَرْضِ مَرَحًا ۖ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ  وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ

“O my son! establish As-Salat/the prayer, enjoin what is just, and forbid what is wrong, and bear with patience whatever befalls on you; for this is firmness (of purpose) in (the conduct of) affairs. And do not swell your cheeks (with pride) for people, and do not walk on earth with pride; for Allah does not love any arrogant boaster. And be moderate in your pace, and lower your voice; for the harshest of sounds is the braying of the donkey.”

One should advise the children about establishing Salat, to be patient and humble, speak gently to people, and to enjoin the right things and forbid wrong acts.

37:102  فَلَمَّا بَلَغَ مَعَهُ السَّعْيَ قَالَ يَا بُنَيَّ إِنِّي أَرَىٰ فِي الْمَنَامِ أَنِّي أَذْبَحُكَ فَانظُرْ مَاذَا تَرَىٰ ۚ قَالَ يَا أَبَتِ افْعَلْ مَا تُؤْمَرُ ۖ سَتَجِدُنِي إِن شَاءَ اللَّهُ مِنَ الصَّابِرِينَ

So, when he (Ismaeel) reached (the age of) work with him, he said  O my son! Surely I saw in the sleep, that I am sacrificing you, so view it, what you see?, He said:  O my father! Do, as you are ordered.  If Allah Wills, you will find me from those who have patience.

The dreams are not exactly as they appear, but they have a certain explanation. Also, please note Ibrahim’s practice/sunnat with regards to conduct with children. He did not force anything on his son, instead he delivered the message to his son and asked about his opinion and decision.

11:46 قَالَ يَا نُوحُ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ مِنْ أَهْلِكَ ۖ إِنَّهُ عَمَلٌ غَيْرُ صَالِحٍ ۖ فَلَا تَسْأَلْنِ مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ ۖ إِنِّي أَعِظُكَ أَن تَكُونَ مِنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ

He (Allah) said. “O Nooh! He is not of your family, for his conduct is unrighteous. So don’t ask from Me, of which you have no knowledge! I advise you, lest you become of the ignorant ones!”

Families of righteous people don’t automatically become guided. Matters of conduct and guidance are on individual basis.

25:74  وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

And those who say, “O’ our Lord, grant for us the cooling of eyes from our pairs and our offspring and make us an Imam / Leader for those who guard.”

The above prayer is taught by Allah to the believers to ask guidance and cooling of their eyes from their families.

Children:

Children are enjoined to be kind in their conduct with the parents. When the parents reach old age, kids are not allowed to insult them or be disdainful with them. If parents err due to old age, the children are ordered to address them with very kind words.

17:23 وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

Your Lord has decreed that you serve none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor.

In matters of justice and witness, only truthful and unbiased witness to be given.

4:135  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ بِالْقِسْطِ شُهَدَاءَ لِلَّهِ وَلَوْ عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَوِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ ۚ إِن يَكُنْ غَنِيًّا أَوْ فَقِيرًا فَاللَّهُ أَوْلَىٰ بِهِمَا ۖ فَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا الْهَوَىٰ أَن تَعْدِلُوا ۚ وَإِن تَلْوُوا أَوْ تُعْرِضُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا

O you people who believe! Be the ones who stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses for Allah, even if this (witness) is against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and if they (concerned parties) are rich or poor; Allah is more (a benefactor for them than you).Thus do not follow the desire (of your hearts), so that you (try to) do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.

In matters of belief, if the parents strive to impart association of other partners with Allah on their kids, they are not be followed in this matter, however children are still ordered to accompany them in the world in the best possible way.

31:15  وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا ۖ وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ ۚ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ

“But if they (parents) strive to make you to associate with Me, things of which you have no knowledge, then don’t obey them; yet bear them company in this World in a good known way, and follow the way of him who turns to me. In the end the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you what you used to do.”

9:23  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَتَّخِذُوا آبَاءَكُمْ وَإِخْوَانَكُمْ أَوْلِيَاءَ إِنِ اسْتَحَبُّوا الْكُفْرَ عَلَى الْإِيمَانِ ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَلَّهُم مِّنكُمْ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ

O’ you who believe do not take your fathers and you brothers as protectors if they seek to love rejection over belief (i.e. Islam/Peace). And whosoever from you take them as protectors then they are the oppressors.

All the relationships in the world should be below Allah and Messengers and striving in the way of Allah. If the relationships get priority over Allah and Messenger’s orders then there is a problem and Allah shall not guide those people who will do that.

9:24  قُلْ إِن كَانَ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمْ وَأَمْوَالٌ اقْتَرَفْتُمُوهَا وَتِجَارَةٌ تَخْشَوْنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَا أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَجِهَادٍ فِي سَبِيلِهِ فَتَرَبَّصُوا حَتَّىٰ يَأْتِيَ اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْفَاسِقِينَ

Say if your fathers and your sons and your brothers and your pairs and your associates and the wealth to which you are committed and the business in which you fear a slump and the residences in which you are pleased. You have more love towards them than Allah and His messenger and jihad / to strive in His way then you wait until Allah comes with His order. And Allah does not guide the people who are dissolute / immoral.

If an offspring gets belief as per Allah’s Ayahs and the parents are still in rejection of Allah, and they reject the offspring and cast him away because of his belief, even in that case the child is to send blessings on them and not be rash in conduct with the parents. The practice of prophet Ibraheem A.S is described in this regard as below.

19:42-47 إِذْ قَالَ لِأَبِيهِ يَا أَبَتِ لِمَ تَعْبُدُ مَا لَا يَسْمَعُ وَلَا يُبْصِرُ وَلَا يُغْنِي عَنكَ شَيْئًا  يَا أَبَتِ إِنِّي قَدْ جَاءَنِي مِنَ الْعِلْمِ مَا لَمْ يَأْتِكَ فَاتَّبِعْنِي أَهْدِكَ صِرَاطًا سَوِيًّا  يَا أَبَتِ لَا تَعْبُدِ الشَّيْطَانَ ۖ إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ كَانَ لِلرَّحْمَٰنِ عَصِيًّا  يَا أَبَتِ إِنِّي أَخَافُ أَن يَمَسَّكَ عَذَابٌ مِّنَ الرَّحْمَٰنِ فَتَكُونَ لِلشَّيْطَانِ وَلِيًّا  قَالَ أَرَاغِبٌ أَنتَ عَنْ آلِهَتِي يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ ۖ لَئِن لَّمْ تَنتَهِ لَأَرْجُمَنَّكَ ۖ وَاهْجُرْنِي مَلِيًّا قَالَ سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكَ ۖ سَأَسْتَغْفِرُ لَكَ رَبِّي ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ بِي حَفِيًّا

He (Ibraheem) said to his father, “O my father, why do you worship what can neither hear, nor see, nor help you in any way? O my father, I have received knowledge that you did not receive. Follow me, and I will guide you to a straight path. O my father, do not worship the Satan The Satan has rebelled against the Most Gracious. O my father, I fear lest you incur retribution from the Most Gracious, then become an ally of the Satan. (The father) replied. “Do you hate my gods, O Abraham? If you don’t desist, I will indeed stone you. Now get away from me for a good long while!” Abraham said. “Peace be on you. I will pray to my Lord for your forgiveness. for He is to me Most Persuant.

Off springs are enjoined to spend on their parents from their wealth. Any good that they do, will be rewarded by Allah.

2:215  يَسْأَلُونَكَ مَاذَا يُنفِقُونَ ۖ قُلْ مَا أَنفَقْتُم مِّنْ خَيْرٍ فَلِلْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ وَالْيَتَامَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ ۗ وَمَا تَفْعَلُوا مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ بِهِ عَلِيمٌ

They ask you (the messenger) what they should spend. Say. Whatever you spend from the good, is for parents and the relatives and the orphans and the needy and for the sons of the path. And whatever you from good, -Allah knows it well.

 

Links:

Lecture by Scholar Mohammad Shaikh on the topic of Parents Children relationship:

https://www.iipccanada.com/category/english-video-lectures/family-life/

 

 

 

 

Emotional management & remedy of psychological hurts

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Humans are combination of body and nafs i.e psychology. When some one says that Mr. X is a good person, they are referring to Mr. X’s psychology. When Mr. X dies, people refer to the physical form of Mr. X as ‘body’, i.e they say that the body is lying on the bed not as Mr. X is lying on the bed.

Physical wounds on the body of a person are easy to see. The psychological wounds can not be seen, however they manifest in one’s personality. Similar to physical hurts and wounds which need be treated otherwise infection can spread in the body, the psychological hurts and wounds need be treated, otherwise they can lead to psychological problems damaging one’s personality.

The three main types of psychological hurts experienced by people are given below:

Psychological hurts from the creation of God. One is not satisfied with what has been created by God of him or her. People would look upon others and wish that they were like some other person.

Second type of psychological hurts are from other people. You are hurt by what people say about you or the way they treat you, which you may find insulting and hurtful.

Third type of psychological hurt come from hurting some one i.e reproach from your conscience. It can come even as a reaction to the 2nd type of hurts, i.e you react back to people and hurt them in return. It may feel good temporarily however, because of the law of Qasas/retribution, another hurt of similar proportion is inflicted on one’s nafs when one inflicts a hurt on someone (see previous post https://topicsfromquran.com/2017/06/04/qasas/)

The psychological hurts reside in one’s Nafs/psychology and if allowed to linger on, they may become chronic psychological problems damaging one’s personality permanently. Sometimes they manifest physically as well i.e making certain ridges or deformities in the brain triggering a particular evil and then that evil would become part of that individual’s personality with obviously bad outcome.

2:155  وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُم بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوْفِ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِّنَ الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ

We shall certainly put you to trial with something of fear and hunger, some loss in wealth and nafs/psyche and of the fruits (of your toil), and give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.

Allah has informed that He will certainly put to trial everyone with some loss in wealth and nafs/psychology. Many people live their lives in constant fear of something bad or disastrous happening to them. This fear does not help them live a peaceful life. A believer in God’s Word can lead a contended life, if he would expect that Allah’s trial will surely come to him and that this trial will be to see if he exhibits perseverance or not. The believer expects the trial, he knows that the trial is temporary ( إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا ), and the trial will be according to his capacity (لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ). With this knowledge, the believer need not live in constant fear of losses in wealth, health and nafs but to be prepared and ready for it to earn Allah’s reward on passing successfully the trial.  

The tendency of a common person is to play blame games when encountering adverse situations in life and feel victimized:

75:2  وَلَا أُقْسِمُ بِالنَّفْسِ اللَّوَّامَةِ

And by the self-reproaching nafs/psyche

When encountered with an adverse situation in life, a person will blame something or someone, without realizing that he is currently under trial by Allah. And glad tidings to those who exhibit patience as they realize it is their chance to earn rewards of Allah by being successful in the trial. Even when the hurt comes from some other person, believers should not play the blame game as it would not have come without the leave of the Lord. So the patient ones, who persevere in adverse circumstances and don’t loose control of their minds and try to correct, are those who will succeed.

2:156-157  الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ  أُولَٰئِكَ عَلَيْهِمْ صَلَوَاتٌ مِّن رَّبِّهِمْ وَرَحْمَةٌ ۖ وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْمُهْتَدُونَ

Those who say, when afflicted with calamity  “To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return”. They are those on whom are salwats/blessings from Allah, and mercy, and they are the guided ones.

They persevere with patience under trial and say that we are indeed for Allah and to Him is our return, meaning we are not here for the world so the worldly problems and trials are insignificant for us. 

57:22-23  مَا أَصَابَ مِن مُّصِيبَةٍ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَلَا فِي أَنفُسِكُمْ إِلَّا فِي كِتَابٍ مِّن قَبْلِ أَن نَّبْرَأَهَا ۚ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ عَلَى اللَّهِ يَسِيرٌ  لِّكَيْلَا تَأْسَوْا عَلَىٰ مَا فَاتَكُمْ وَلَا تَفْرَحُوا بِمَا آتَاكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ

No misfortune/calamity happens on the earth or in your nafs/psyche but is in a book before We release it. That is truly easy for Allah. So that you may not grieve over what you lose, and not be over joyous over what is bestowed by Allah, for Allah does not love any arrogant boastful person.

People are actually helpless in matter of divine destiny. People should always keep in mind, that despite all their successes in life, Allah can take back every thing. All your properties or wealth which you may have spent several years building, may be destroyed by natural calamity or by health problems in matters of minutes. Again everything belongs to Allah and people should not grieve over what they lose or be boastful of what Allah has provided from His bounties. They should always be ready for trial by Allah.

For dissatisfaction in matters of creation of God, believers must realize that the opinion of the Lord matters much more than the opinion of other people. Allah has created everyone in the best of proportion. In the eyes of Lord, you are among the elite ones if you are a believer. Those rock stars, most adored in the world by people, may not necessarily be the favorites of God. Therefore the supreme success is not in getting people’s approval but in getting the favor of the Lord by acting righteously with faith in God’s Word.

3:139  وَلَا تَهِنُوا وَلَا تَحْزَنُوا وَأَنتُمُ الْأَعْلَوْنَ إِن كُنتُم مُّؤْمِنِينَ

So do not lose heart, nor fall into despair, for you are the elated ones if you become the believer.

3:140  إِن يَمْسَسْكُمْ قَرْحٌ فَقَدْ مَسَّ الْقَوْمَ قَرْحٌ مِّثْلُهُ ۚ وَتِلْكَ الْأَيَّامُ نُدَاوِلُهَا بَيْنَ النَّاسِ وَلِيَعْلَمَ اللَّهُ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَيَتَّخِذَ مِنكُمْ شُهَدَاءَ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الظَّالِمِينَ

If a wound has touched you, be sure a similar wound has touched the others. Such days (of varying fortunes) We rotatate among people, so that Allah may know those who believe, and that He may take witnessess among them, and Allah does not love Zalimeen/wrongdoers.

A psychological hurt when harbored for long time converts into a psychological wound. A person inflicted with misery and having psychological wounds, may grieve and complain why he alone is chosen for this misery. However, similar wounds are with everyone. He should not think that he is singled out to be unfortunate in the world. Every body is inflicted with similar wounds. Allah does not burden any one more than his capacity. These trials are from Allah. He keeps on revolving the difficult days on people for their trial. So the believers believe in Allahs’ trials and help themselves with consolation from this knowledge.

3:172  الَّذِينَ اسْتَجَابُوا لِلَّهِ وَالرَّسُولِ مِن بَعْدِ مَا أَصَابَهُمُ الْقَرْحُ ۚ لِلَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُوا مِنْهُمْ وَاتَّقَوْا أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ

Those who responded to Allah and the Messenger, after that a wound has been inflicted on them; Those people of them who do right and take guard of Allah, there is a great reward;-

The people who understood that the psychological hurts they received are a trial from Allah. They get clarification of their hurts from Allah and messenger (they seek a situation in the Book of Allah similar to their situation), these people who did correction; did not blame any one or Allah for their sufferings and persevered; for them is a great reward.

22:15  مَن كَانَ يَظُنُّ أَن لَّن يَنصُرَهُ اللَّهُ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ فَلْيَمْدُدْ بِسَبَبٍ إِلَى السَّمَاءِ ثُمَّ لْيَقْطَعْ فَلْيَنظُرْ هَلْ يُذْهِبَنَّ كَيْدُهُ مَا يَغِيظُ

If any one thinks that Allah will not help him in this world and the Hereafter, let him stretch out a means to the sky and cut (himself) off. then let him see whether his plan will remove that thing which enrages (him)!

There is no escape for a person who loses hope in the world and hereafter except his recourse to Allah. He cannot escape anywhere. Even death and suicide doesn’t help as he has to go back to Allah in any case. Therefore, one cannot lose hope in Allah and should always revert back to Him and not to take any irrational decision.

9:40  إِلَّا تَنصُرُوهُ فَقَدْ نَصَرَهُ اللَّهُ إِذْ أَخْرَجَهُ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا ثَانِيَ اثْنَيْنِ إِذْ هُمَا فِي الْغَارِ إِذْ يَقُولُ لِصَاحِبِهِ لَا تَحْزَنْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَنَا ۖ فَأَنزَلَ اللَّهُ سَكِينَتَهُ عَلَيْهِ وَأَيَّدَهُ بِجُنُودٍ لَّمْ تَرَوْهَا وَجَعَلَ كَلِمَةَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا السُّفْلَىٰ ۗ وَكَلِمَةُ اللَّهِ هِيَ الْعُلْيَا ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ

If you people won’t help him (The Messenger), Allah did indeed help him, when the unbelievers drove him out. He was the second of the two when; they two were in the cave (deep in despair), and he said to his companion, “Have no fear, for Allah is with us”. Then Allah sent down His peace upon him, and strengthened him with forces which you people did not see, and made the sayings of the rejectors lowly and the Word of Allah is exalted one for Allah is Exalted in Might, Wise.

This is a particular situation experienced by people who start following the path of Allah leaving the deviant path of their community, if the community does not believe in Allah’s Word. At some point in their journey, they are left off by even their near and dear ones and they find themselves in a hole of despair when everyone leaves them in their belief. At this point the Messenger becomes their companion, and consoles the individual. Allah helps them by making the sayings of rejecters the lowly ones and exalts the Kalima/Saying of Allah against the rejecters Kalima/sayings and supports the believers with such forces that nobody can see.

4:17  إِنَّمَا التَّوْبَةُ عَلَى اللَّهِ لِلَّذِينَ يَعْمَلُونَ السُّوءَ بِجَهَالَةٍ ثُمَّ يَتُوبُونَ مِن قَرِيبٍ فَأُولَٰئِكَ يَتُوبُ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ ۗ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا  وَلَيْسَتِ التَّوْبَةُ لِلَّذِينَ يَعْمَلُونَ السَّيِّئَاتِ حَتَّىٰ إِذَا حَضَرَ أَحَدَهُمُ الْمَوْتُ قَالَ إِنِّي تُبْتُ الْآنَ وَلَا الَّذِينَ يَمُوتُونَ وَهُمْ كُفَّارٌ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ أَعْتَدْنَا لَهُمْ عَذَابًا أَلِيمًا

On Allah the repentance/return is only for those who do evil in ignorance and repent/return soon afterwards; to those people Allah returns/accepts repentence . And Allah is knowledgeable, Wise.

If a person has done an evil act and his conscience is blaming him and he is suffering from psychological hurts, the way to get out of the evil is to do Tauba/repentance with Allah. This  repentance is accepted by Allah if done timely i.e not delayed for too long and with the intention of not repeating the act again.  Indication of acceptance of Tauba is that you will not be repeating the bad act.

39:53-54  قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَىٰ أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ  وَأَنِيبُوا إِلَىٰ رَبِّكُمْ وَأَسْلِمُوا لَهُ مِن قَبْلِ أَن يَأْتِيَكُمُ الْعَذَابُ ثُمَّ لَا تُنصَرُونَ

Say. “O my Servants who have transgressed against their nafs! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah. for Allah forgives all sins. for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful; and turn ye to your Lord (in repentance) and bow to His (Will), before the Penalty comes on you, after that ye shall not be helped.

Allah will forgive all sins with the condition mentioned in above Ayahs, that you have to turn to your Lord before the penalty comes. If the evil act is continued to that stage that punishment starts then you will not be helped at this stage.

39:55-56  وَاتَّبِعُوا أَحْسَنَ مَا أُنزِلَ إِلَيْكُم مِّن رَّبِّكُم مِّن قَبْلِ أَن يَأْتِيَكُمُ الْعَذَابُ بَغْتَةً وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَشْعُرُونَ أَن تَقُولَ نَفْسٌ يَا حَسْرَتَا عَلَىٰ مَا فَرَّطتُ فِي جَنبِ اللَّهِ وَإِن كُنتُ لَمِنَ السَّاخِرِينَ

And follow the best of (the courses) revealed to you from your Lord, before the Penalty comes on you suddenly while you don’t perceive it. “Lest the nafs should (then) say. ‘Alas in that I neglected towards Allah, and was but among those who mocked!’-

If you continue doing the evil acts, there comes at some point within the worldly life, the punishment. When the punishment comes then it will be too late to repent and ask for forgiveness.  When you realize your mistake, take ownership and ask forgiveness before the worldly punishment comes, then Allah may forgive and save you from the punishment.

17:80  وَقُل رَّبِّ أَدْخِلْنِي مُدْخَلَ صِدْقٍ وَأَخْرِجْنِي مُخْرَجَ صِدْقٍ وَاجْعَل لِّي مِن لَّدُنكَ سُلْطَانًا نَّصِيرًا

Say. “O my Lord! Let my entry be by the entrance of Truth, and my exit be the exit of Truth; and grant me from your presence an authority for (my) help.”

The psychological hurts cannot be helped with the help of falsehood and lies. You have to make your life the life of truthfulness in order to help heal the psychological hurts, confess to Allah your the mistakes with the will to do corrections and not repeat the evil acts. Deceiving oneself with lies and lame justifications is not going to help.

41:34  وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ۚ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ

Nor is goodness and Evil equal. Repel (Evil) with what is better. Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were your friend and intimate!

Goodness and evil acts are not equal. Therefore believers cannot return the same acts which oppressors do to them. They have to return the wrongdoing with better things.

42:40-41  وَجَزَاءُ سَيِّئَةٍ سَيِّئَةٌ مِّثْلُهَا ۖ فَمَنْ عَفَا وَأَصْلَحَ فَأَجْرُهُ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الظَّالِمِينَ  وَلَمَنِ انتَصَرَ بَعْدَ ظُلْمِهِ فَأُولَٰئِكَ مَا عَلَيْهِم مِّن سَبِيلٍ

The recompense for a wrong doing is a similar wrong doing (which will be inflicted by Allah). but if a person forgives and makes correction, his reward is due from Allah. for (Allah) does not love those who do wrong.

If some one inflicts evil acts on others, he will get automatically an equivalent return from Allah. The believers help themselves when they are wronged, from the knowledge of the fact that the oppressor who have oppressed them, will meet similar fate (by Allah) and they don’t have to take their own revenge.

Notes:

Lectures by Scholar Br. Mohammad Shaikh on the topic of Consolation of psychological hurts:

https://www.iipccanada.com/category/english-video-lectures/govern-yourself/

https://www.iipccanada.com/2017/12/13/nafsiyati-zakhmon-ki-tasali-2012/